Are You Indecisive? You Need to Decide

The funny thing about choices is that they have to be made. I once heard that if you don't make a decision then the decision will "make" you. This means that either you get involved in making decisions for yourself or you will consequently experience the outcome of whatever might happen. Something will happen.

We should all be please that we live in a day and time where options are in abundance for just about anything you can think of. With so many choices, most of us don't know which to choose or don't trust our choice once it has been made.

Choices mean everything. There is a reason why most people decide to follow a well-paying job rather than a childhood dream. They are choosing between security and insecurity. This does not necessarily mean that their decision is good. It means that they feel more secure if the ABC Company cuts them a check rather than hoping that this "dream" becomes a secure reality. Someone else may choose to follow a dream and their reasoning for choosing may be that they are deciding between doing their own thing and having a "boss". In this case, money is not an issue in their decision.

With every title that you hold, there are decisions to be made. As a mother, you are making choices for you and your child. As a wife or husband you are making decisions that will ultimately affect your partner. Also as an employer, supervisor or manager, you are getting paid to decide so coming up with "something" is better than nothing. Many companies suffer because no one is taking responsibility therefore no decision is being made. Your responsibilities in life require you to decide what, how, when, who, what, where.

Avoiding making choices is a deeper issue. You can't practice not making a decision just because you don't know what to decide. With no decisions being made, nothing is getting done. Excuses are the biggest reasons why we can't decide on something. And although excuses are lightweight sentences to formulate, they have heavy consequences. I have about a million of them. I can pull a great excuse out of my hat that can fit any situation. However it is only hurting me and people who depend on me to make a move.

I have always wanted to start a business from home. This was and still is my great big secret project. What is important to me is making sure I do my part in my family so that my children and partner can depend on me. I decided to get a job. When that job ended, I thought about my great, big, secret project and I almost convinced myself to make it happen until this other job called. While working I noticed how unhappy I had become. I noticed that I believed and valued certain things that I was not putting to practice in my everyday life. Of course with becoming a mother there were certain things that I must do. People would always say that you have no choice when you are a mother; you have to do what you must. I never believed that in its entirety. I do believe that you do have to make sacrifices but I did not believe that motherhood was a life sentences to be gravely unhappy doing grunt work for the "big" boss. I actually believed that as a mother, I now have the obligation to show my children how adversity doesn't mean lying down and giving up.

With this belief, I had a big decision to make. I used the stress of employers to deter my dream. I was so caught up with office politics, gossiping co-workers, and making sure I don't get canned that I really stopped focusing on what I felt was right for me. I still don't know who I was waiting for to decide whether I should follow my dream. Some decisions require your stamp of approval and purposeful action only.

Seeking out help in deciding is great but what I found was that if you run your decision by enough people, you will start to run from it sooner or later. Everyone's opinions are not conducive with your understanding and reasoning. For instance, if you ask someone who has been hurt by a lover whether or not you should pursue an intimate relationship, they may tell you that you should and furthermore, how wonderful it will be. However, they will not forget to tell you the "awful" thing that happened to them. This may affect your decision greatly. Be cautious with who you involve in your decision-making. Everyone's advice is not for you.

No matter how much you ditch and dodge issues, they will confront you. If it affects your life, happiness, health and sanity, you need to deicide. Or you don't have to decide and the decision made will be a complete surprise. Surprises are not always good.