Are You Just Not that into Him?
5 Tell-Tale Signs that You Need to Call it Quits
Being single is definitely preferable to being in a relationship that isn't working. While the idea of being on your own after having been in a relationship might seem scary to you, you'll be much better off in the long term. Here are five tell-tale signs that you're "just not that into him" and you should end your relationship sooner rather than later.
1. Spending time with him feels more like an obligation than something you do for enjoyment. You used to look forward to seeing him. If you live together, you couldn't wait to come home and be with him. Nowadays, you feel like that spark is gone, and you'd rather be doing other things with your time. You might even have to check in with him to make sure it's okay to spend a Friday night out with the girls-- you resent this.
2. You frequently complain about him to your friends. Your friends keep telling you that you need to either fix the relationship or end it. If you are complaining about him often enough so that your friends think he's not right for you, then you might want to pay attention. You might enjoy your time with your friends even more because it gives you the opportunity to vent about him.
3. You imagine yourself dating other men. You find yourself wondering what it would be like to be with someone else. You may have someone in particular in mind, or you may just wonder in general. What if you could do better? What if you are just settling? If you think you might be "settling" for him then you probably are. If you've been with your boyfriend for a long time or since a young age, you probably haven't had the opportunity to really explore what else is out there, and you might start wondering.
4. His quirks that once made him endearing to you are now just plain annoying. You thought it was cute on the first few dates, then it sort of got on your nerves, but now it annoys the hell out of you. Also, things that you never liked about him but you "tolerated" now seem more important, and you aren't overlooking them as much.
5. You are easily frustrated by him and/or you argue a lot. You argue over every little thing. Or, if you aren't the confrontational type, you just get frustrated with him and then vent about it to your friends. If the two of you don't see eye-to-eye on certain fundamental values and beliefs, then it's time to call it quits.
Why are you not that into him anymore? Where you ever "that into him" to begin with? Whether he's changed since you first met, or you misjudged him, or it just took awhile for you to realize that the relationship isn't right, then it's time to breakup with him. Working it out might be an option-- but if you are having the feelings described above, then your heart probably isn't in it.
Published by Elizabeth C.
I am the director of marketing for a software company in the Washington D.C. area. I'm 31 years old, and I've been involved in many activities, such as running marathons and other races, and dancing for a mi... View profile
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4 Comments
Post a CommentIt is sad when things don't work out as you wish. But when you see these signs, it may mean that it is time to move onward and hopefully upward. Great job.
Sherri, it's wonderful to hear that people can still be happy after 21 years of marriage. I am 28 and single-- boy do I HATE dating. I feel like there are just no good guys out there. :-(
I am sooooo thankful that I am married! Most guys that I know would fall under these descriptions. After 21 years of marriage I still enjoy the company of my hubby, but he has been known to frustrate me once in awhile. My favorite part of the day is when he get's home from work, we share our day, and then decide where we are going to eat or what we are going to do.
Or...if he needs to read this article!: http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/161431/guys_look_nice_stylish_without_the.html