Are You Lonely, Bored, or Not Many Friends?

Ok, you know not all of us have a bunch of friends calling us or wanting us to hang out. That may be hard to swallow if you are a socialite or think you are.

High school and college has come and gone. Where are you now? Maybe married with kiddies running around. Maybe your kiddies are having kiddies of their own? No matter what your age you still may feel lonely and realize your friends have faded away. Whatever the reason, you are left with just yourself.

I had a hard time with this myself. I kept telling myself I needed a friend. I was new in the area and had no one other than my husband and children. But I wanted to laugh and have girly conversations with a friend or go out for coffee. I was not a person to do anything much alone. There was nothing to do, no one to call. Everywhere I went, I would smile at people and feel invisible. They just were not friendly. They seemed to already have their friends and family and be quite settled with that. I asked myself over and over if I was ugly, was I too loud, did I not smile enough? What was my problem.

After years of feeling this way, which can actually give you a big complex about yourself, I came to grips with what was going on. I didn't have a problem. I needed to forget about seeking out friends so badly. I needed to live a happy life and give happiness to those who I cared about most. Right under my own roof, my own nose. My family. I started really taking an interest in what made them happy and in turn, it made me happy.
I didn't constantly look for someone to smile at me. I would smile at people and look away not knowing if they smiled back. I was going to be happy with who I was and what I had. I realized I didn't need friends as much as I thought.

I started to work for a senior care givers company. There I went to seniors homes to help them with whatever they needed me to do. The most precious thing was that I made friends with them. They enjoyed my visits, laughing with them, and I enjoyed them just as much. I got paid for making friends.

I learned to go out more alone. I did things I enjoyed. I loved to go to the thrift stores, antique stores, and grocery stores. I would make a day of it all to myself which included a drive- through burger and fries. I was still aware of people who did not smile back or even acknowledge I was there. But I came to realize they were in their own little world. I was the one happy and in touch with all that was around me. Caring enough to be considerate of others, but not needing any recognition from them any longer.

Friends will come your way in time through a path unbeknown to any of us. But in the mean time, be happy, and be aware of things in life that you like. Treat yourself well.

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