Are You in Love with Your Worst Enemy?

If you love someone who is possessive and wants to put you in a cage so that he or she will be able to control you all the time, someone who doesn't respect your desires and preferences, someone who doesn't care about your personal problems, or someone who doesn't really care for you, you are in fact in love with your worst enemy.

What is the meaning of this relationship?

Is anyone obliging you to have it?

Yes, your feelings are.

Your feelings are obliging you to bear everything you dislike, because you simply melt when you are with him or her.

Your heart lives bleeding, but you can't stop loving him or her, because they have the charm, the style, the face and the body, the image and a thousand things more that you like.

What can you do?

You can learn to be wise and find the right person for you, instead of insisting on a wrong relationship.

If your heart lives bleeding because of him or her, who doesn't understand you, this is a wrong relationship, even if you believe it is ideal on many other points.

You may want very much to live with this person and believe that you are going to change them, however, don't have such illusions!

If someone is not as you wish they were, don't imagine that you can change their behavior. On the contrary, they are going to change your life, because they are going to ruin it completely.

Who are you to be able to change someone's behavior?

Psychiatrists and psychologists try very hard to change the behavior of their patients, but they fail, because the human behavior is something very hard to be transformed.

Only through dream analysis according to the scientific method can someone's behavior change and the person can find balance without a doubt. There are other methods that may work depending on each case, but the unique guaranteed method for all cases is the scientific method of dream interpretation.

This is the bitter truth, because the transformation of someone's behavior is a real surgical operation! It is not something simple.

Today I received a message with an old dream dreamt by a woman that was married to a man who was torturing her. Her older son had already many psychological problems.

My Dream: Both my husband and I are sleeping in our bed. The head board has a 6-8" book space the same as the length of the bed. A huge oversized black spider (1/2 size of the height of the book space) was in the corner sitting on a web it spun showing with its belly toward our heads, on my husband's side of the bed. Of course everything is black in colour. Then all of a sudden the web turns into a silver chain with large links.

Biography: I was going through a breakdown at this time because of his abuse (emotional, physical, mental, financial and sexual), and the marriage terminated about ....... years later

I was seeing a therapist at the time, and she could not decipher this dream. I am frightened of black spiders.

And here is my translation:

The spider in dreams means something very important that you have to understand, otherwise you'll have many problems in the future. Fortunately you understood that you had to live far from your husband! This was the important thing you had to understand then.

The double bed is related to the couple's sexual relationships. So, you had to understand something very important related to your marriage.

The spider that becomes a silver chain with large links was showing you that one bad fact brings another and so on, in order to show you that the consequences of living with this man would be too many.

Fortunately you did the right thing, separating from this man, even though you could not translate this important dream at that time!

She did the right thing, but only after many years... Her life was ruined, she suffered very much, and her children too.

There are many similar examples like this.

Did you know that most divorced couples hate each other?

I remember the case of one of my friends, who refused to see her ex-husband after her divorce, because she hated him so much that she could not bear his presence or talk with him on the phone.

When he wanted to pick up their then, 7 year old daughter, she would leave her daughter at her parent's house and he had to pick up her there, so that they would not be in contact.

Imagine how much she hated him!

Today their relationship is civilized, but when the divorce was still new, the situation was the one I described.

Be very careful! If your heart is bleeding while you are not married yet, never get married to this person!

If your heart is bleeding now, imagine how much it will bleed with all the extra problems you'll have to face after your marriage, living all the time with a person that never cares about how you feel...

Be serious!

This is your life and your happiness!

Look for the right person for you and stay far from people that make you suffer.