Are Post-Baby Sex Decline and Marital Problems Normal?

Despite popular belief, many couples suffer from a decline in sex after their baby is born. The fact is, many couples are just reluctant to candidly discuss post baby marital woes such as this. While all relationships are different, there are many reasons behind this post baby phenomenon and there are ways to overcome it. Whether the issue is lack of time, desire, or just the feeling of being unattractive, there are some simple tips to improve your post baby sex life.

Could It Really Be Your Sex Drive?

Honestly, in some couples, the sex drive may decrease temporarily after the birth of a child for many reasons. Fear of becoming pregnant again, dealing with a post baby body, the sleeplessness that occurs with having an infant, and/or fear of hurting your partner. All of these things can often decrease the libido and can ultimately effect both partners sex drive. The key to overcoming post baby sex decline linked to these issues can be as simple as taking better care of yourself. This includes getting regular exercise, eating properly, and getting enough sleep.

Make Your Relationship A Priority

Putting your relationship first is crucial for a successful and happy family life. In addition to the post baby sex decline, many couples may notice other parts of their relationship have declined. When partners become disconnected, not only sex, but communication can slack off too. Making time for one another everyday, if only for a few minutes can make a significant impact on intimacy and the overall relationship. Although the baby may be the love of your lives, remembering the love that led to that can not be stressed enough.

Seek Counseling and/or Medical Attention

The post baby sex decline that couples experience is quite normal. However, this state of the relationship is often only temporary. When the lack of desire persists or becomes a problem in the relationship, speaking with a physician or marriage counselor can be of great benefit. This is because a significant decrease in libido that does not go away can indicate a physical or mental health problem that may require treatment. Postpartum depression is one of the many disorders that can become quite serious but can be treated.

As the mother of two small children, I can relate to post baby marital and relationship problems. By utilizing resources that may be available and keeping the lines of communication open, they can be overcome.