Are You Raising Mama's Boys?

Raising boys is no easy task. Whether you are a single mother or married, a lot of the weight of raising a child falls into "mama's hands."

From the days when I was a little girl, I dreamed of having two children; one boy and one girl. Well, God doesn't exactly give us the rich man's family all the time. Yet I have been incredibly blessed beyond measure to have birthed three beautiful boys. Though my children are still quiet young, I have learned a few tips and techniques about raising boys.

The Term Mama's Boy Scares Parents Away from a Special Bond With Their Children

Mama's Boy: A term well coined for those immature yet should be grown men who can not seem to fully separate from their mothers has feared both mothers and fathers out of the special bond a mother can have with her son. There is nothing that I enjoy more that the closeness I share with my boys; yet trust me, I am raising them to one day leave the home and build a family of their own!

My boys, all three of them, are clingy at times, especially when it comes to a competition. When my two year old is on my lap, I have my one year old crying for my attention and my five year old trying to nudge his tush on my other leg. This in itself is actually the competitive spirit of boys; they will fight over anything including their mother's lap!

A mother should have a deep bond with her boys with out the fear of raising a mama's boy. Trust me, by the time they are twelve and you drop them off at school they won't even kiss your cheek. You will be greeted with typical slang and treated like an outsider when trying to pry information from them, even as simple as "how was your day?"

Treasure those years when "who can blow mom the most kisses before she closes the door - wins" is still cool! As long as you are raising your children to be independent, leading them through a door of self sufficency by adulthood, you are in the clear of raising stuck to the hip, adult mama's boys!

You are Probably Not Raising A Mama's Boy

What really makes a mama's boy is typically the amount of responsibility the mother puts on the child to take care of her. Yes, I raise my boys to help around the house, but raising a mama's boy goes far beyond having your boys do the dishes! It is placing the son at wrong position in the home, asking child to care for mother. Eventually mom overdoses on her sons ability to always help around the house, lend her money in financial difficult moments and brags that he is always there for her at the drop of a dime. Because of this, mom rewards her son with praises and showers him with over flooded emotions. In this situation, a son becomes so dependent on his mothers approval that even his wife (if he even moved out of the home) plays second fiddle to the mother. And should the son stay home well after his childhood and youth, never settling down long enough to spread his wings and fly from the home nest, well...that's a clear indication you raised a Mama's boy!