Are You Stuck to Your Ego ?

Ego is our identity and cognitively it is who we believe ourselves to be, individuality separate from other people and unique to our 'self. As seen in Ken Wilber's discussion of translation versus transformation, (1) the identity must go through the former before arriving at the latter. The formal ego is transcendental. The process is difficult to begin due to how little we accept that rendered indoctrinations and handed-down belief systems of our ancestors, followed when we were children or adolescents, change over time.

We are normally unaware of our real Self as we are completely identified with the body and deluded by its demands satiating them to isolate what are real self deserves. However, the ego can be beneficial to the inner self as long as it adheres more too positive parameter most of its life, rather than negative identity faces a destructive nature to replace a once benevolent intention to stay within positive parameters.

There are three defined virtues available to search for the antidotes to selfishness: self effacement which is the act of keeping oneself in the background while ego is the center of consciousness; humility which is the quality of being modest; and self-disciplined which is a standard of choosing what works best for you depending on the circumstances noted. Self discipline is sought as an antidote to selfishness, and that a sense of failure can be become overwhelming that renders one powerless and feeling like a disappointment to all. This state of being has an individual thinking this is all wrong and strive to change that part of which is believed to have control over.

The 'self' will not be formless nor ignorant but also not restrained to the physical parameters this soul has entangled itself in. We as a human person have the strength to remove restrictions and limitations on our personal growth. This can be achieved by practicing meditation where you can travel outside of human consciousness, exceed cognitive parameters, and become clearer.

Love for the world is easier; making amends in strained relationships becomes more feasible, and finding the beauty in everything around you despite your colorlessness, is growth represented. To find your truest direction requires deciding from within, after careful study of the alternatives from what you have learned about the consequences of your decision, that you have made the correct choice.

The deeper self within, which we really seek, is our own soul. That part of us transcends the more structured part of the human psyche, our ego. It is through using the body, mind and spirit channels available for self- discovery that we are aware of reality and the focal point of the various aspects of the overall personality.

All boundaries link us all with the loves we have never experienced. The essential nature of our soul is love and so the more we are in tune with our soul the more we can love unconditionally. When we have soul awareness we are not hurt when that love is not returned. It asks of nothing but gives much in return. The importance of remembering that our eternal souls are still in both the spiritual and material forms and that are lives are pretty much what we make of them, is a gift we have within ourselves. We can search ourselves in hopes of finding the forest by removing one tree at a time, or by sharing thoughts and having the trees stand out better by looking at them from a different view, perhaps someone's else's'.

The quality of uniqueness deserves applause and recognition because it is an accomplishment to be your own person especially if you feel great about whom you are and why. Do not let those things which may not in the present be understood weary thy soul, but know that sometime, somewhere, you, too, will understand. Keep the faith in looking through the eye from which we look at the world, our inner seer.

You can now begin the rest of your sojourn freely to the creator that has given you life and all its glory.

1) Wilber, Ken, 1980. The Atman Project: A Transpersonal View of Human Development, Quest Books, Wheaton IL