Are Work at Home Moms Neglecting Their Kids? - Part 2
First of all let me say that not ALL work at home moms neglect their children and making that assumption is ridiculous!
For some work at home moms the idea of "making a living on line" is becoming a problem.
A while ago I came to the realization that this was becoming a problem for me.
I worked 50 hours a week providing home day care for several relatives children in addition to caring for a mentally ill husband who was in and out of the hospital. I also have 3 children of my own.
I stayed up all hours of the night searching for that perfect opportunity that would help me bring in more income to support my family. I was tired and completely stressed out all day and my children suffered from it, I had to make some changes for the sake of them. Of course they were not abused by any means but they were not getting my full attention and I felt guilty because of it.
I wondered if I was the only person who had this problem, several months ago I began asking other moms about their on line habits, some I personally knew and some I asked on line. It was not an in depth study just based on my personal experiences while chatting with other moms, including mothers working outside the home. I realized I may not of been the only person with this problem so I asked the tough questions and the s*** hit the fan!
It is absolutely not a direct attack on all work at home moms and if it doesn't pertain to you then that's great , perhaps you can help an on line friend or family member who is having a problem. Share with them how you balance it all.
The article has nothing to do with a small group of wahm's from one forum (although they seem to think it does), it is a broad topic written in hopes of bringing more attention to this problem. The forum was just an outlet to draw attention to this problem and nothing more.
I encourage all point of views on this topic but hateful comments directed towards me or about my children will be deleted, there is enough hate in this world as it is.
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5 Comments
Post a CommentIt is easy to get caught up when you're on the computer working from home, but working between laundry loads while the kids are in school has been a blessing to me after being laid off in late June, 2009. I finally found InkMart.com as a business, and my business day ends about the time my oldest granddaughter gets home from school (5:00), so no one gets neglected now -- at least until she gets on the computer and ignores me! The other trick I've learned is to cook more with the crock pot, so dinner is pretty much ready when they walk in the door. It's good to be honest about some of the pitfalls we fall in occasionally. Enjoyed the articles and the reminders to keep priorities in place.
This article is the perfect complement to your first article and should defuse some of the hostility and flames that came from your first. The transparency you expressed in this article was needed in the first article. That way, people reading it would understand the burden you had to bear. They would understand the realization you came to and felt compelled to share with other mothers who were struggling with their multi-roles as income supplementer, wife, mother, and homemaker. In my humble opinion, these two articles needed to be melded together into one.
I think these are great articles. I know I was starting to spend way to much time writing here and talking to friends and started trying to do all my computer work during the day while the kids are at school.
Good lord. The single question asked at the WAHM forum was simple because it was the beginning to other questions that probably need to be asked. The violent reaction seems far out of proportion to either the question, the answers, or the article written about both. This says to me that followup questions should be asked. There's something important here underneath. Isabella, don't let yourself be bullied into putting the rock back down. Examine what it exposed instead. You have something here.
Sorry you got so much flak. It isn't just WAH moms who may be neglecting kids, but stay at home moms who spend too much time on the internet too. When we are home (and I'm a working outside the home mom)) the most important connections to maintain are with our families. If a parent can work around home duties to also work at home, that's a gift, but if it encroaches too much it might be better to look for work outside the home and return focus to family when at home. And whether a parent works at home or at an office, or stays home, too much internet time at home is a bad thing. Face to face relationships are the most important and also the most fragile...