Arguing with Your Spouse Can Kill You

Every couple becomes angry at his or her spouse at times and they argue, fuss, and fight. Couples argue with their spouse over any number of things such as kids, money, and sex. But it's important to remember that how you react and deal with each conflict and argument plays a part in your overall health.

A lot of people deal with anger and arguments by totally shutting down and not expressing their thoughts or opinion on the matter. They keep their frustrations locked up inside of them and never stand up for themselves. They sit around thinking about what all had been said by their partner and maybe the words were hurtful or that person may have made you feel dumb but you never said anything. The more you think about everything that was said the angrier you get.

Arguing with a partner is perfectly normal and is a natural part of life. But never venting your feelings or thoughts to present your side of the argument will only lead to resentment. Over time, all of this anger and bottled up resentment can cause health problems. How people decide to deal with each conflict that comes up in a couple's lives has a great impact on their health down the road. Keeping your anger locked up inside has an affect on your bronchial system and your heart, can cause ulcers, and can make your blood pressure rise.

When couples argue and one partner does not react or show emotion in any way it could cause the other partner to feel as though their emotionless partner does not care about resolving the problem. When one partner does not show any emotion or anger during a disagreement they are most likely bottling up their anger. Afterwards, they will think about what all was said and hash it out in their mind over and over. Then they become frustrated because they did not stand up for their self and can get even angrier thinking they got the raw end of the stick. That anger can then get turned right back around at their partner, causing a totally different argument than the original one that was never resolved.

Talking things out and resolving issues that come up will help keep relationships strong. You cannot force your partner to express his or her feelings if they do not want to but if they care anything about the relationship then they will talk. If at all possible, never go to bed angry. The problem will still be there the next day and you will lose much needed rest if you go to bed angry. All you will do is toss and turn and think about what all was said and you will become even angrier. Then when you finally do talk to your spouse and the issue is brought up again even more hurtful words may be said that cannot be taken back.

Expressing yourself and your thoughts during an argument as it happens is the ideal way to resolve issues. If you do not get everything out in the open at the time of the argument and state your feelings of anger you could be setting yourself up for bitterness and resentment. Both you and your spouse should take turns and let it all out at the time of the argument, but be sure to actually listen to your spouse's point of view. It's easy to get so caught up in hurtful emotions during the heat of the moment that you don't really give your spouse's feelings a fair evaluation. Remember that there are always two sides to every story and it takes two to tango.

So remember to let it all, talk and listen to what the other person says, and resolve issues as they arise. Communication between spouses is a key factor in a making a relationship work.

Source:
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