Attracting a College Girl

It's hard to seek out a potential love interest when you're in college. Especially when you study engineering. Every day, hundreds of boring faces come in and out of your life, slowly draining you of your innocence and boyish charm.

Every once in a while, though, you come across that hidden gem, whether it be on the bus, in a large class, or even at the library. Ah, there she is, sitting ever so quietly at the desk, studying - what is that? Thermodynamics! Beauty and the brain!

You may think of yourself as a beast, but everyone has the potential to be beautiful. When you see her, your boyhood immediately returns to you as, every so mesmerized, you walk into a nearby wall. It's very rare that you feel so into a person, so give it a shot! Here are some tips on how to know what you want, go after it, and get it.

Register for the same classes. If you recently met someone that you are really feeling, then don't hesitate to register for the same classes as her. Especially if you're not really sure about who she is, this will give some time to get to know her before you decide on what to do. Approaching her can be easy as you can ask for help, or just ask to study. Besides, you'll get to see her every day! Proximity is one of the keys in developing a long term relationship, as most of the time distances can kill a romance. If you are able to interact with someone on a daily basis, who knows what will happen? But beware, if you move too quickly or you aren't clicking with someone as you get to know them, you'll be stuck with awkwardness for the rest of the semester.

Group activities are also another fun way to get to know someone. Ask her to go out and do something with you and your friends in a group. As long as you guys are with the crowd, you can get to know each other without the pressures of being alone and "dating." This is a great way to get advice on your situation as well - your friends will be watching closely to see what you guys are up to. They can tell if you're getting too close too quickly, or if she's throwing you signs and you're still staring at the ground.

So, you think you can dance? Every school has some type of ballroom or salsa dance group (If there isn't one then you should create one). Dancing is a great way to develop a chemistry between two people, as they are expressing their emotions to one another without speaking. Also, if neither of you knows how to dance, it will be a great way to make some new memories you guys can laugh about later.

Find a smart way to date or attract a girl. If you just take her out to watch a movie, you're not doing anything interactive. She will probably get bored quickly, or be so engrossed in the movie that you won't have made any progress in getting to know her. Always find something to do that is fun, requiring teamwork and communication. If you are scheduling an event between you two, trying to have it involve things such as playing sports, shopping, mini-golfing, laser-tag - any activity that is active, not passive.

During college, both of you will be at a certain age during which you enjoy active, vivacious, and spontaneous personalities. Having an interesting personality is a certain way to attract any woman. Being able to engross her attention in something you mention or bring up will surely get her thinking, "Hey, I think this guy is really fun to be around." The next time she finds something interesting to do, she will think of you and call you up. You can also do something impromptu that will brighten her day. We all have bad days (especially in college), and when that day comes she will need someone to be there for her. You don't have to be overly sensitive, just let her know that she has someone to talk to.

As usual, remember to keep your ego in your pants. Girls hate it when a guy blabbers on about how great he is at football, beer pong, basketball, chemistry - whatever it is he wants to talk about. She wants you to talk, but not about yourself. When you consistently shower yourself with praise, you are not only making yourself look LESS talented than you actually are, you aren't engaging her in a conversation, thereby driving her even farther away from you. The people who are best at what they do never brag about it. Let your actions do the speaking.

If you want to get a girl to be with you for a long time, it is important to develop a companionate sense of enjoyment in being together. Couples who don't get to know each other before bull rushing into a relationship usually end up getting nowhere. Just like constructing a tall building, laying a strong foundation takes time and effort. So remember to take it slow, like a snail.