Attracting a Girl and Keeping Her Attention in Class

Below you will find several techniques that will help you approach -- and succeed -- with women in your classes at school.

1. Timing is critical.

Don't bother her while in the middle of an exam or when the professor is giving important information about the syllabus, etc. Wait for the end of class, as people are exiting the lecture hall, to make your move. Unless you are a born Casanova, play it safe -- ask her what she thinks of the professor, if she plans on studying for the test, or something else that is related to the course. This allows her to talk, but it isn't overly invasive ("Do you have a boyfriend? Do you want one?" may not be the best question to ask upon first meeting).

2. Remain confident.

In college, money and status are fairly relative things -- nobody has either, and those who do are not regarded highly because of it. Instead, things like "personality" and "confidence" count for a lot, both socially and romantically. Make plenty of eye contact and don't make her beg you for a date. When you think the time is appropriate (usually after talking one or two times in class), ask for her number and say you'd like to go for coffee later in the week. It can be that simple. These techniques should be used in moderation; you'll notice they work well enough without "laying it on thick". If you come across as too confident or cocky, it can intimidate some women.

3. Don't mix business with pleasure.

If you are in a small seminar class with only ten or fifteen people, think twice before asking out someone in your class. If they turn you down, you will feel awkward whenever you go to that particular class. Stick to people you meet either outside of class, or better yet, at school extracurricular events and in your larger lecture courses. And, quite obviously, don't date a professor or TA. There should be enough hot people at your school without resorting to such drastic measures.

4. Do use studying as a chance to meet new people.

Especially before midterms and final exams, social study groups form. Rather than studying by yourself in a dingy subterranean library den or in your dorm room, look to join a study group -- or ask a girl you've had your eye on if she would like to study with you. This will keep you motivated to review the material for the exam, and also allows you to spend more time with someone you've only had sporadic conversations with in class.

5. Never date a friend's crush.

By college, this should be common sense, but from time to time you may be attracted to someone your friend likes (or is currently dating). If you go out with a friend's crush, even if they act "cool" about it, you risk losing that friendship forever -- or having that friend question your honesty for many years to come. So before "poaching" another guy's girl, think about how much you value the friendship. If it's a close friend, don't do it. It's that simple.