Attraction to the Same Sex, Is It a Choice?

Does a person choose to be gay, or are they born this way? Is their attraction to the same gender created at birth, or is it something learned? Most importantly, does it really matter to you?

Does a straight person choose to be straight? That tingle that they feel inside, the excitement, the love that they feel for the person of the opposite sex..is that all by choice? Do they make a conscious decision to feel attracted to that other person, or does it come naturally? The answers to this should be quite simple. We don't write out a plan of thought before making out with our high school sweetheart. We don't go over what is happening in our head, and suddenly decide to feel good inside. That good feeling happens naturally in straight people, just as it does gay people. Perhaps people aren't questioning the natural urge, but rather the "need" to act on those urges. Who are we to decide what is right or wrong for someone else? I have yet to meet a gay person who was utterly disgusted with a straight couple. I have yet to see a gay couple, having homosexual intercourse in public (although I wouldn't put it past anyone..gay or straight). People act as if they are just repulsed by someone else's relationship...but why? Are they attempting to make up for their own inadequacies, or are they truly hell bent against people expressing their love for one another because of their gender?

I have heard this debate time and time again. I anticipate hearing much more of this debate even as science furthers and we come to realize that genetics do play a role in the gender that we are attracted to. People, in general, love to hate the unknown. It isn't something they are used to, something that they are exposed to frequently, and that scares them quite a bit. How are they suppose to feel comfortable with something that they have been taught is wrong and disgusting? Well, the gay woman writing this article hopes that this has shed just a sliver of light on the subject. Instead of trying to determine whether or not it is a genetic urge, we should be focusing on educating the ignorant people who are scared of someone who is "different".

Instead of focusing on gay or straight, we should focus on teaching our children to love people for who they are, not who they sleep with. Individuality makes the world go round. Lets focus on life, love, our family, our friends, and not the neighbor's sexual activities.