Baby is Boss!

I'll admit it, I'm a huge planner...almost to a fault! I always have been and always will be, and in some ways it's great and in others--well let's just say that I can drive my husband crazy. Once I found out that I was pregnant, my planning skills went into overdrive. I immediately got books on every pregnancy subject out there, started dreaming up nursery ideas, and figuring out how to prepare for this little angel. I remember even thinking in the hospital that I had a plan and that we as a family would stick to it. That lasted......all of about 48 hours and then she really woke up and I realized that I was not in control anymore. She was!

I've talked to many friends while I was pregnant and since I've had the baby who say the same thing. The baby is in control! Not to say that you can't have a life, it's just different. When people say that "a baby changes everything", they're not kidding. It is the most wonderful blessing and I am thankful everyday, but you just have to learn early on that you can always have a plan--or that you can't stick always stick to it. In the seven months that my daughter has been here, we've had several planned events or play dates with friends that have had to be postponed or cancelled altogether. What I never understood until I met the little one is that your life is all about her, and that you will do whatever you have to do to ensure her happiness.

So if you have to reschedule a playdate because the little angel is running a fever, that's the new plan. If baby is having a complete meltdown due to teething mayhem, then you may not make it over to your friends for that bbq. Family function that you've been looking forward to? Always keep a back up plan in the back of your head so that you know that either you're going solo so hubby can stay home, or that you'll be spending that scheduled time instead home with the baby.

You have to keep your humor about you. I will be honest that I've had to learn patience (was never really my virtue before) and accept that motherhood is my full time job, and everything else unfortunately takes a back seat. I try to remember that when plans change because my little darling has a meltdown in the middle of Target or at Church--I swear those are the two places that it happens every time. I've learned to laugh it off, which is easy to do when you look at that little face.

Remember that this baby is what it's all about--makes laughing things off and being flexible with your plans much easier!