Baby Mama Drama

What can I say about this? I have experienced it first hand and it turned physical. Mind you, I was raised never to fight over a man. And I feel like no man should let his woman fight over him. But I fought this woman, who was ten years my senior, even though I had tried my best to do the right thing. When I say right thing I mean I never tried to have a confrontation with her.

The situation was, to make a long story short, I was over my ex's sister's house, and he wanted to return his son that nite to his mother. So his sister took him down the street to do just that. This crazy lady, instead of meeting him, walked to his sister's house with her other child, left the child downstairs, rang the bell, pretended to be another one of his sisters and as soon as I opened the door hit me. So I fought in self defense. And yes I f'd her up; police report said she had a one inch laceration below her left eye. Now I feel like I did the right thing. She came looking for me, for trouble and the sad part is, if I were his sister's friend just hanging out at the house, she would not have known the difference. I had never seen her and she had never seen me.

He was the second guy I had dated who had children. My first experience was only negative in the sense I did not like the fact the when a child is involved the parents have to keep in contact. I was young, insecure, and jealous. I knew I did not like how I felt dating this guy so I said never again. But nothing bad happened. And that is why I went against my intuition and dated the second guy without thinking.

So my solution to baby mama drama was not to date a man who already had children. For me it worked. For others it may not. Some women love children, some women have children walking into the relationship. Not to say that all men who have children have Baby Mama Drama because they don't. Some parents are mature enough to keep in mind what is in the best interest of the child. But if you are going to date a man with children do your homework. Before you sleep with him be his friend. Hang out with him before you get sexually involved. That way you should be around him enough just to observe and notice the clues and hints. Like if he is always arguing with her, how negatively he talks about her, if she is constantly calling, how responsible he seems as a dad, but at the same time don't rush to meet the kids. See how often he sees his own kids, because some guys are full of it.

Some men like drama and will keep it going themselves. Like the one guy I dated, I found out later on that he used to call me restricted to make me think it was her and he used to do the same to her. Stupid right? But I fell for it because there was an element of competition. Women are competitive. You don't want to get caught up in all that and end up looking stupid and feeling dumb, like me when I found out she was preggers again. And some baby mamas, you know who you are, are just so bitter because they thought that child would keep that man, and they end up learning the hard way.

Some women just love drama and are extremely jealous and will hunt you down and try to hurt you. Then you have the men that live with their baby mama but they "aint togetha" And I'm sorry but a man with too many different baby mamas is a sure sign of Drama Ahead!

I don't think there is anything wrong with dating a man with children, it just depends on what type of a person you are and if they have a healthy relationship. But if you do decide to date a man with kids heed all the warning signs and don't rush in to the relationship, you wouldn't want to be the next baby mama would ya?