Bad First Date Ideas

Michael Martin
Think carefully about where to take your first date because there's some bad first date ideas out there. You don't want the venue getting in the way of learning about the other person. Where to go should complement your date, not compromise it.

Bad first date ideas become bad first date ideas because they prohibit two essential ingredients from making your first date a successful first date: communication and chemistry. If you slash these two elements, your first date may unfortunately not lead to a second date.

Here's why the following are considered bad first date ideas:

Movie...Taking your first date to a movie isn't a wise move. Why, because there's little or no opportunity for conversation during the movie. You'll be unable to get to know each other, and that's the real purpose behind the first date. If you do go to a movie, you may have to extend the date afterwards.

Lunch...Meeting for lunch is a bad first date idea for a number of reasons. First, you both are wearing work clothes, not casual attire, which may create a more rigid, uptight meeting. In addition, both of you have to return to work so there's little time, an hour at most, to get to know each other. This lends to a feeling of rushing through the date. Since you have to return to work, the work day's stresses may be in the back of your mind, which can chip away your "game." Also, as lunch takes place during the daylight, this may cause romanticism to be removed from the equation. The darkness of night is much better for first dates as it allows romanticism a little more breathing room.

Sporting Event...Right off the bat, if your date isn't a sports fan, this would be an automatic bad first date idea. Boredom may set in, which is a bad start. Your date may truly not like sports but may initially give into the invitation just to be accommodating. If this is the situation, just hope you have excellent conversational skills.

Keep in mind, some sports venues can have unruly fans. If you happen to be sitting near these types, it may create an unpleasant experience. Sporting events may be better for dates down the road when you both are more comfortable with each other.

Meeting with Friends....Never join your friends while on your first date. It's truly a bad first date idea, so leave your friends out of the picture. It can be intimidating for your date, and it shows dependency on your friends, which is not a good impression. Your date can meet your friends when the timing is right.

Wedding Date...A bad first date idea is taking your date to a wedding. Resist the temptation of feeling you need to take a date to such an event. Go single if it comes down to it. Wedding first dates can be disastrous because if you don't feel any chemistry, you'll be stuck with that person for the duration. Reserve your first dates for dinner or some other occasion where you can get to know the other person. Also, you may miss out on meeting another single at the wedding, so schedule your first date for some other time.

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  • Nicole Pellegrini5/18/2010

    Good advice, although I don't mind the idea of a lunch date - if a woman is nervous about the situation, a lunchtime date can take some of the pressure or anxiety away from the date since there is a need to go "back to work afterwards." Ie, the woman can feel more assured she won't get pressured to invite her date back to her house or apartment, or have the date linger longer than desired.

  • andra picincu12/28/2009

    Very creative!

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