Bad Guys Vs. Nice Guys - Who Wins the Girl and Why

Women say that they want a nice guy, but they really want a not so nice guy. You'll find tons of different opinions on this subject. Girls will say that they were confused when they chose a jerk over a nice guy, but the truth is that the initial attraction just wasn't there. Human nature proves that women do not want a straight sweetheart. Women do not want a straight jerk either, rather someone more in between. Let's get into this a little bit more in detail.

A girl may come up with the excuse, that she left you or chose a bad guy over you, because she is trying to find herself. The truth of the matter is that nice guys don't present the challenge that we all need to be interested in something. Nice guys tend to be predictable. To keep the woman interested or to interest her in the first place, you have to keep her guessing in a way. A nice guy will call exactly when he says he's going to call, show up exactly when he says he's going to show up, promise her the sun, the moon, and the stars and she doesn't have to do much to get it. Where is the challenge?

A lot of times a girl has to put in some effort to get a bad guys attention. For the simple fact that she had to put some kind effort into it, makes her appreciate his attention more when she gets it. This principle applies to life in general. When you're given something for nothing you don't appreciate it, but when you have to work for something you cherish it. If you give a girl flowers on a regular basis, she's going to start expecting them, and you giving them to her won't be as special. The guy that gives a girl flowers more spontaneously is going to get more action from it. It's all about the element of surprise and girls go for bad guys because they don't know what to expect from them.

The bad guy tends to show more confidence than the nice guy. He doesn't put his confidence aside to impress her. Women are attracted to guys who show confidence. They don't want to be walked all over. They want to feel special. The mistake nice guys make when trying to make a girl feel special is telling her what we're going to do for her instead of just doing it. Telling her takes away the element of surprise, and trying to make her feel special too often will do the same.

If you're a nice guy and you seem to be finishing last with women, it's not so much that you are nice, but women feel more challenged by the guys who are not so nice. Even though it may sound good, women don't want guys to give them the world. They don't want you to be wrapped around their finger, rather they like a guy that can take charge. But not to the point of being controlling. They want someone who is strong not weak, and unfortunately for some reason, being too nice is perceived as a form of weakness.