BDSM Techniques - Hot Wax Play

Hot Wax Play in BDSM Scenes can be highly erotic and can be highly dangerous. It's no fun at all to have a burning pool of wax collect in your most intimate parts, or to try to escape from rope bondage in a room filled with smoke and burning curtains, all because your Top hasn't learned the basic safety requirements of Hot Wax Play. As with any BDSM exploration, safety comes first - ALWAYS.

Preparing for Play

• A thin film of mineral oil or even baby oil on any skin to be waxed makes removal much easier and can be a fun erotic piece of the scene in itself

• Spread an old sheet or tarp over the play area, to protect your carpet or furniture

• Bring a flat hard surface near to the play area to hold your candles, wax pots and other toys securely - this helps avoid spills (unwanted spills) and prevents accidents, like tipped-over candles, etc.

• Put a romantic or edgy CD on continuous loop, so that you don't have to stop the scene to put in another piece of music. Once you are fully engaged with your partner in the erotic wax play scene, stopping abruptly can cause major 'sub drop'! (Sub drop is also known as submissive drop and can be extremely upsetting, emotionally)

• Gather all your scene stuff before beginning play - wet washcloths or towels for instant cooling of wax, ice in a bowl, a mini-fire extinguisher you can purchase from any auto parts store, and anything else you can think of to keep your submissive and your home safe.

Variations of Wax Play

Dripping, Pouring, Ladling, Painting, Feathering are all common ways to apply the hot wax to the bare skin. Dripping is self-explanatory. Pouring can either be from a container of heated wax or from the wax candle itself. Ladling is exquisite; as long as you have made sure the temperature of the wax is low enough not to cause burns or intense discomfort. Painting delicious wax graffiti on your lover is amazingly erotic! From paintbrushes to feathers, Q-tips to eye droppers, try painting your name or simple scrolls and designs. I've had a Celtic dragon and the word "MINE" on my back, a Wheel of life and a stained glass look 'window' among other fun things and can honestly tell you - yummmmm! SAFETY NOTE: We recommend wax no hotter than 120-125 degrees Fahrenheit (49-51 Celsius), to avoid burns, heat rash and even blistering. Another favorite of ours is to smear it on with the Top's bare hands. It is very sensual and VERY tactile!

Specific Safety During Wax Play Scenes

Wax Temperature: It bears repeating, high temperature wax burns! Try a soy wax at a low temperature melting point, or the cheapest cheap candles from the dollar store. Additives are put into candle wax to harden them, or to add scent and color. Cheap soft white candles tend to be the lowest melt temperature wax, because of the lack of additives, such as stearic acid, but other issues may also arise. Consider the submissive's known allergies to scent and oils in scented candles. One candle that we enjoy using is the big jar type holy' candles sold at groceries and drug stores. These are often on sale after a religious holiday for 2 for $1, and have very little, if any, chemical additives.

Pooling Hot Wax and Your Intimate Crevices: A drop or two of hot wax on a submissive's back is totally different than a molten pool of wax gushing down the cleft of their bottom and gathering into a painful, blistered pool on their anus.!

Wax and Hair Make for Pain Play You Might Not Have Planned: Body hair can be somewhat protected from wax, and cleanup made easier, by coating the hairs with baby oil or mineral oil before wax play begins. Of course, if pain play is part of your scene, you can 'pull' the wax off with a flea and tick comb (the kind with very fine, very small teeth); scrape it off with a knife blade or even better, an old credit card. Some seasoned hot wax players flog the wax off or cane it off, as part of their scene! Personally, I love my floggers too much to let them be used in this way, possibly damaging the falls of the flogger.

Shouting "FIRE" in The Middle of Your Scene is NOT Erotic!: As always, think 'safety'. Keep burning candles and flames away from any flammable materials. Never leave any flame unattended, not even when you finish the hot wax play scene and are lying together lost in erotic bliss!

So, think through your own wax play scene, discuss it between partners, plan for every foreseeable event in your hot wax play scene, and most importantly - ENJOY the warm, sensuous hot wax adventure. Stay safe and play smart, and you can enjoy many erotic adventures with your partner!