Become an Instant Man Magnet

Have you ever seen a woman who is not particularly beautiful, but she has something about her that makes her alluring? You just can't put your finger on it, but she just has the "It Factor" that makes men want to be around her. This characteristic is called charm -- or a powerful magnetic appeal that is delightful. The positive energy and glow that a charming women exudes makes her undeniable sexy and attractive.

Charm goes beyond looks; it's that "special something" that enables a woman to hold herself taller and with confidence no matter if her hair, body or face is perfect. While many women just work on themselves from the outside, a charming individual knows that balancing her inner and outer beauty is the key. A charming woman has instant likability that makes others, especially men, quickly bond with her and become attracted.

So what are three major elements that make up charm and how can you boost them? They are social skills, body language and physical appeal. Focus on these areas and you will leave a charming impression on every man you meet.

Social Skills

~ Be a Good Conversationalist: Practice the art of good conversation. Listen attentively and ask open-ended questions to draw him out. Be an attentive listener. Do not control the conversation by talking about yourself. Your aim is to make others feel important. Do this and you will have no problem keeping the conversation flowing.

~ Show Gratitude: Manners and politeness are important elements of charm and often get lost in the shuffle. Always say "thank you" when he does something nice, no matter how small. During dates, always thank him when he buys your drink or pays for the check.

~ Have Great Energy: Make him feel energized and positive after your visit. Be upbeat and even boost his self-confidence if you can. Focus on what is positive in life and the world, not on negative topics or gossip. End your conversation on a high note and with a smile.

~ The Name Game: Remembering names is very important. Once you are introduced to someone new, especially the man you want to charm, repeat his name and use it often in your conversation.

~ Making a Connection: Finding a common ground is an important factor in being charming. Men need to identify with you through things in you have in common, such as hobbies or passions. Ask questions to discover those things and build conversations around them.

~ Show Your Sense of Humor: Nothing is sexier than a woman with a sense of humor! Make him laugh and you will get his blood pumping, his face smiling and the rapport built instantly. Don't be a comic; just be yourself and
find the humor in any situation.

Body Language

~ Smile: A smile goes a long way in winning a man over! Do you like what he is saying or what he is doing? Let him know that you do by smiling. Your face looks uplifted and your eyes look bright. He can't help but smile with you.

~ Eye Contact: Eyes are the mirrors to the soul. You have heard it a thousand times and know there is some truth in that old saying. Make eye contact during your conversation to let him know you are in tune with what he is saying.

~ Touching: Keep in close proximity and gently touch his arm or hand. These simple touches help convey your message and that you are not afraid of showing your gentle side.

~ Poise: Having poise is holding yourself with confidence, appearing stress-free and composed. This includes displaying a relaxed expression on your face and having great posture.

Physical Appeal: Get Your Sexy Back!

Now that you have reminded yourself on what makes a woman charming from the inside, let's focus on "Getting Your Sexy Back" and being the best you can be on the outside and attract your man. We are not talking about perfection, just about becoming the ultimate YOU! This part is easy, especially if you have a role model in your mind. This section will help you create a three-step action plan to balance your inner beauty with your outer beauty and become the ultimate man magnet!

Step 1: Determine "What's Sexy": First, think about who you would describe as "sexy." Think about familiar people that you admire who are in your social circle. If there are several people, what do you find most attractive about them? Write a list of the specific characteristics you find sexy. Possible list ideas are as follows: great fitting clothes, sexy hairstyle with highlights, alluring makeup with emphasis on pouty lips, has a beautiful smile, has beautiful arms.

Step 2: Create Your Action Items: Review the list of characteristics you feel are sexy. Based upon that, list the areas where you want to make progress. For example, two items might be to "get a sexier smile" and "change your hairstyle to something less structured." Write down your list of items in a single column, leaving space next to each item for the next step.

Step 3: Determine Your Action Steps: You now have your list of items you want to focus on in the first column. Next, take each item and decide what steps you will take to achieve it. For example, "get a sexier smile" might be on your list. To do that, you may need to "get your teeth whitened" and "revamp the way you apply your lipstick." Take each item on your list and write the specific action you will take next to it. This two column list will become your action plan.

Tips:

Start Small: Keep in mind that you will want to start out with simple adjustments that will make you feel instantly sexy. Physical adjustments are easy, such as sexy make-up. Just make a visit to Sephora or Ulta for a mini-makeover for spring. Physical adjustments, such as toning specific parts of your body may take a bit longer.

Make it Yours: Make sure your list reflects you and your uniqueness. For example, the person you admire may have great arms, but your legs are your best physical feature. Make sure to add "showcase my legs" on your list.

Whatever your goals may be, make an effort to keep you vision in front of you and focus on your action plan to be the most charming person you can be from the inside out to attract your man.