Become Platonic Friends with a Female -- For a Change

Lisa Mooney
A basic human desire is for companionship. People want someone to connect with for conversation, empathy and company. Many individuals, however, find it difficult to find friends due to shyness, insecurity or some other social discomfort. This can often be true for men seeking the friendship of a female. Fortunately, there are many ways for these gentlemen to initiate and then form a platonic relationship with a female.

Friendship Concept

Learn what it is to a good friend prior to looking for a female to with whom to connect. A friend is someone who is available emotionally to support the other person by listening, empathizing, socializing and relating to that friend.

Work on Yourself

Work on yourself so you can find friendship and be worthy of it. Take care of yourself in terms of hygiene and health. Hone your listening and conversational skills. Make sure you are ready for friendship with a female.

Type of Woman

Decide what type of woman you are looking to be friends with. For instance, you might prefer an outgoing woman or one who is more reserved. Think about the type of activities you enjoy whether they be outdoorsy and sporting or more sedately geared to watching films and playing board games. You want a woman who is compatible with your likes.

Similar Interests

Look for women you can form relationships with. Go to places that are female friendly. These may be community functions, fitness gyms and social clubs. Pick where you look by your own personality type. For instance, if you are into playing chess, you might find a woman at a local chess players' gathering.

Politeness

Introduce yourself politely to a woman with whom you want a friendship. Tell her your name, smile and extend your hand. Women appreciate manners, so yours should be pristine. Show immediate interest by asking her about herself and her interests. Be positive to maintain a good energy, according to the Health and Life website.

Honesty

Explain you are only interested in a buddy, so she knows upfront you are not seeking a romantic relationship. Be honest in everything. If she is amenable to that fine, if not, don't pursue the friendship.

Activities

Ask a potential woman pal to do something fun with you. Suggest going out somewhere where you will be engaged in doing something rather than just talking so the pressure is off to talk constantly. There will be time for time for lots of conversation as you get to know one another. Glamour recommends you pick activities that will be recurring in nature such as going to a lecture series.

Pace

Proceed at a pace that is comfortable to both you and the woman. Friendships that evolve over time tend to last longer and be more substantial than those that are forced too quickly.

Published by Lisa Mooney

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