Become a Woman of Quality

Today, marriages are falling apart with very little effort and men and women have greater difficulty relating to each other. This is NOT because of some misogynist, patriarchal system which suppresses women. Believe me, whether you are a feminist or a sexist, becoming a woman of quality will help all types of your relationships, from friendships to long-term romances.

Embrace your womanhood. Being feminist does not mean that you should become a man and beat those guys at their own game. The strongest, richest, most savvy and powerful women in the world have been the most successful at being women, not guys. They lead like a female, not a male. They retain their femininity and their beauty and their passion for womanly objects and experiences. Understand how your womanliness is your greatest asset, not something to squash or put into rigid chains so that you appear more masculine.

Increase your learning. Men do not value simple-minded women; they value simple women. There is a difference. If a man can find an intellectual woman who does not bring emotional chaos into their lives and over think every little thing, he would prefer that over a dumb bimbo. Do not confuse their desire of lack of emotional chaos for desire of stupidity. It is simply a pattern that women who are intellectuals are able to strongly concentrate their intellectual abilities when bringing their emotional baggage. Forget the emotions, hang out with the guys down at the lake, and read your Tolstoy whenever you please.

Increase your beauty. Part of being a woman is loving beautiful things and loving to be beautiful. This is a natural phenomenon and should not be sabotaged with the concept that you are making yourself beautiful to please men. Many of the beauty tactics which women use today are not particularly valued by men. Men dislike too much makeup or obvious "face painting," sticky hairspray, or any women are not able to be comfortable around them. Men enjoy natural beauty (or the illusion thereof), women who are at ease with themselves around men and when alone, and women who fix themselves up, without looking like a primped up doll in the process. Do not dress up for your girls or your guys. Dress up for yourself. Make yourself into the pleasing picture which you would like to see. When you are comfortable with the result, everyone will be, too.

Learn grace. Women are particularly talented at developing and using grace. Mercy is defined as not giving punishment when it has been earned. Grace is defined as giving rewards when they have not been earned. Do not keep score with your friends or neighbors. When you forgive, only do so when you do not have even a hint of rancor left over; when you can do so completely. Be generous. Be concerned about the welfare of others. Go out of your way to help others, especially when you know they will not return the favor. Quickly hide the faults of others and publicly praise their strengths. Be a woman of incredibly high quality. It is in your power to do so.