Before Hitting the Sheets

Most often when you think of sex images of writhing bodies and rumpled sheets come to mind. We rarely consider that the process of sexual excitement begins much earlier than that, maybe even hours or days beforehand. For a completely connected and satisfying sexual experience a little preparation and extra effort is in order. Don't worry, it's simple and oh-so worth it!

You can think of this step as pre-foreplay. Sort of like maintenance in order to keep your "motor" running. There are many strategies for executing this pre-foreplay, and all of them will be appreciated and enjoyed by both yourself and your partner. For starters give a few of these a try:

1. Do yoga in the nude. Being free from restrictive clothing will allow you to truly appreciate each others' bodies. Aside from the great view, you'll also be gaining flexibility that will definitely come in handy when you two decide to take it to the mattress.

2. Read an informative sex book together. You'll get some great information and be able to gauge your partner's interest in new ideas. Hearing your voice speaking about such intimate acts will be sure to drive your partner wild.

3. Write a lust list. List all of the things that drive you crazy (in a good way) about your significant other. You'll want to be as specific and personal as possible. Include the things that you love about your partner's body, sexual technique, and the way that they touch you physically. You'll be surprised at the things that will appear at the top of your partner's list.

4. Invent lusty new code words together. Sharing a secret language to be used in mixed company is both sexy and adventurous. WARNING: This tip does carry a bit of a giggle factor.

5. Slip a sexy surprise into your partner's pocket. Sneak a favorite pair of sexy underwear into the pocket where they keep their keys. It'll be the first thing they feel as they walk out the door, and it'll have you on their mind all day.

6. Send them a message from above. As your partner is busy toiling away on the computer, scribble down some sexy words or maybe draw a naughty scene that you'd like to act out. When you're done, send it sailing over their shoulder and right into their lap in the form of a paper airplane. A truly cute and creative way to spark a little romance.

These tips are simple enough for anyone to use. Luckily it's often the simple pleasures that bring the most joy. Not only will you become closer to your partner using these techniques, but you will be expanding your sexual horizons. Good luck, and happy experimenting!