Behavior Problems Kids Have After Spending Time with Grandparents

I heard some parents say that their children were acting differently after spending time with their grandparents.Probably true because most grandparents loved their grandchildren so much more than their own children and they would do everything to make them happy. One grandmother said that she enjoyed doing things with her grandchildren more than what she did experience before with her own children. Grandparents will always yield to the wishes of their grandchildren. Whatever they want, it will always be granted. Some parents are having problems with their kid's behavior after they spent time with grandparents.

What are the behavior problems of kids as a result of pampering by grandparents?

What He Wants He Gets

I once had a student who was funny but rude and annoying sometimes. He can hardly follow simple instructions not that he was stupid but because he make foolishness all the time to entertain others. He was trying to be comical and when reprimanded, he will resent. I call the attention of his father and tell him about his son's behavior in school. The father said, even he himself has having problem with his son's behavior and this started when the child spent the whole summer vacation with his grandparents. Well, the father said that his son is the boss in his grandparents house because everything he wants he gets. The father said that there was one time he punished his child in the presence of the grandparents and when the grandparents take side with the child, the father assert his right to discipline his son. It became an argument between the father and the grandparents.

Headstrong or Strong willed

Why kids develop this attitude when they were with Grandma & grandpa? I'm sure grandparents are not teaching their grandchildren to be bad but because of their lavish affection they don't impose any discipline to their grandchildren to avoid hurting their feelings. My grandmother was so fond of me when I was a kid. I really love to be with her often because she gives me what I want specially toys my parents wouldn't buy for me. When some kids make fun of me while we are at play, my grandmother will come to the rescue and scold those kids who are mean to me. I love the feeling, as if she is my supper hero. Things change when I'm at home. My mother won't give in with what I want and It makes me mad. When she wants me to do something I keep on grumbling and sometimes I cried and won't obey. I feel that grandma is better than my mother. I disobeyed my mother and I do what I want. I am just fortunate that my mother did not give up on me in spite of my attitude. I was able to overcome my willful attitude when we transfered residence far away from my grandma. Too much love & affection of grandparents to their grandchildren make them spoiled and headstrong.

Show off

In grandma and grandpa's place all the attention were given to the grandchildren. They are the apple of the eyes for grandma and grandpa. Some kids are gaining too much confidence when grandma & grandpa were around because everything the kids do is approved by them. This makes the kids proud and show off. They would even brag to their friends what they got from grandma & grandpa. They are so over confident to do things in public because no matter what happens grandma and grandpa are always there to support them. Public display of any form is sometimes annoying to others.

The way grandparents deal with their grandchildren are also contributing factors to the development of the child's values and character. Many grandparents don't realize that their pampering would turned their grandchildren into spoiled brats. There are many parents and grandparents who are having conflicts because grandparents would take side with their grandchildren when parents disciplined them for misbehaving. It is really hard for parents to deal with this issue. It is maybe better to live far away from grandma and grandpa to avoid this problem.