Being Bi-Sexual in a Straight Relationship

Cheating is No Longer a Man's Game

Karen Morris, Yahoo! Contributor Network
May 17, 2007 "Share your voice on Yahoo! websites. Start Here."

Nowadays it is so hard to define who we are. Are we conservative yet liberal, open yet closed, completely straight, church going or church believing, sinful or forgiven? We are asked daily to define ourselves in either our tax forms or license applications, dating sites or even in new people we meet. There always seems to have to be a set definition of who we are so that others are more comfortable on how to judge us.

Being a bisexual woman is sexy to most of the male population. They immediately envision the male porn fantasy of two women with dildos and vibrators and constant foul language to one another as they perform oral sex on each other. Sure, they still fall back on the old "Tongue between the middle fingers" symbol thinking in some idiotic way we find that erotic and therefore, must want a threesome with this debonair man of sure James Bond type style. After all, how can we as women possibly please each other without the phallic toys, right? Those are a necessity in woman-to-woman lovemaking.

Reality check hickville!!! That's all in movies, honey. We make love in ways that are sensuous, understanding and most importantly, respectful. We don't always want our asses smacked and to be degraded in language. That is not the way a woman who respects herself wants to be treated and that is why a lot of straight men are finding their wives of many years leaving them for women. The media doesn't want to discuss it. Male controlled media is too scared to show that women really have taken the power position and no longer want to be made to be subservient to men. We can be CEO's, Mother's, Best friends, lovers and manager of the home. We do run the show most of the time. Funny thing is, part of our job is help make you feel you do.

Men, more and more of us ladies are with you at night in bed and with women in our heads and fantasies while you grunt and take us for granted. We are the new cheaters of the millennium. Girl's night out means "Girls night to eat out". Not food to the most dense of the crowd here.

Our archaic Christian based society forces us to remain in the "Norm" of marriage and motherhood, but come weekend nights out, the gay clubs are packed with your wives, girlfriends, lovers and mothers. We have found our freedom. We have found our passion. We have found each other. Locked in passionate embraces with tender kisses and gentle caresses, we orgasm with more satisfaction than we could possibly do with you anymore.

I write this because I am letting the secret out guys. I am the bartender in the largest female gay bar in my state. I have been doing research for over two years by speaking with women and taking notes and percentages. Here they are folks:

Married Women who cheat bisexually: 53.2%

Girlfriends with steady boyfriends who cheat bisexually: 32.6%

Bi-Curious Women who come into the bar for their first experience: 15%

Men, perhaps its time to consider asking more often where your women are going and who they are talking to on the internet. Chances are, you will find out eventually, once she moves in with her new girlfriend.

Published by Karen Morris

Working mom and life student who enjoys political topicals as well as human interest that implore our society to seek higher learning and ground. View profile