Being Single and Happy

Being single is sometimes a choice and sometimes it isn't. Whatever your personal situation if you are single it is completely possible to be happy and to lead a very positive and productive life. For the most part of our lives we are naturally programmed to believe we must have a mate and that is just not true. It is also a natural instinct for the human mind an body to feel pulled toward reproduction. And it is very widely known today that we do not need a permanent partner to be fruitful and multiply. Being single and placing all of your game pieces exactly where you want them is a miraculous human right that is wrought with freedom.

You may have had a tough break up that has left you tender and afraid to have another relationship. You may be single because you made a conscious decision to do so. I have been in both situations. At this time in my thirty six year old life I am single because I truly want to be. I have found that by spending time with married couples has made my decision a no brainer. The disagreements and untrusting nature of so many of my friends confirms my need to be alone and free of the dysfunction that haunts so many people. I thought that my grandparents were the perfect couple but little did I know as I grew older an understood them better I learned that they were miserable people who stayed in a marriage that should have never been in the first place.

From our earliest hormonal development we are chemically pulled to find a partner. There is no stopping this human instinct. You are going to explore the newness of your body and you are going to yearn to discover the newness of someone elses body as well. I teach my children that sex although it is natural it is an emotion not an act. Any two people on the face of this earth can couple together for purpose of sex. The act alone is not the complete function that sex serves in our lives. It is meant to to be shared between two people that can dedicate themselves to one another for the purpose of raising the child that is meant to come from such a union. So very many people want the sex just for pleasure and not the intended outcome that nature has developed.

On the other end of the spectrum they're people who only want the product of a sexual union. This can be done in so many ways today. It is not required that we couple physically with anyone to receive a child. I have known people that have chosen this route for their life and they are very happy indeed with calling all the shots in their lives. They make all of the choices about their child and themselves. I have learned nothing but positive things from these people. They have made it very easy for me to remain single and happy. I have learned to look inside myself for contentment and to explore my talents for the most optimum personal development. I have grown more over the last three years of being single than I did with any relationship I have ever had.