Being a Switch: Submissive and Dominant

To be considered a switch, one is neither 100% dominant, nor 100% submissive. to some, this would seem like a fruitless struggle unto themselves, but to others, this is where they find the most comfort. There are people who can feel completely submissive one day, then the next they feel dominant. Some cases, a switch can feel submissive at the beginning of the scene, then by then end, they are the dominant or vice versa. This only works, however, if the switch is involved with another switch. But this does not mean that there is anything wrong with being a switch, it is just who they are.

Is being a switch really the best of both worlds? Some say that it is, for they get the control that they seek when they seek it, yet they can still be in control when they feel that urge. However, being a switch isn't without problems, especially when a switch gets involved with someone who is either a complete dominant or a complete submissive. Often times, a dominant or a submissive won't understand the needs of a switch. A dominant or submissive will be unable to fulfill the complete needs of the switch, so they will want seek out someone who can fill the piece that is still missing. In some cases, the current dominant or a submissive, may not like this and can try to keep the switch from finding one who can give what is missing. To say that a switch has the best of both worlds would be saying that being dominant or submissive is not a fulfilling position to be in. This is far from the truth, it is just simply what is right for some people and not for others..

This leaves the question, however, of whether one can be both dominant and submissive. In a lot of cases, it is not possible for a person to be both. They are naturally dominant, or naturally submissive and that is all that they are. While others still are dominant in some situations, while being submissive in others. For instance a woman could feel submissive when they are involved with males, but feel dominant when they are involved with a female. This is not always a blanket case however, because there can be cases where the dominant feels submissive to one single person, simply because of who the person is, not what gender they are. This also means that a person can feel submissive to all but a single person, whom they feel dominant with.

With all that being said, why not just choose to be one or the other? For some that is not really feasible to choose. It is not natural for them to be one or the other. Being a switch is who they are. There is no point in denying who or what you are if you wish to live your life to the fullest. I don't see where you come out ahead or behind by being one or the other if that is not who you truly are inside.

With that said, one would have to remiss not to say that switches are often forgotten a segment of the lifestyle. Because, traditionally, when speaking of lifestyle choices, dominant and submissive are spoken of. This would lead someone who is new to the lifestyle to believe that they are the only options even when they do not feel that they are one or the other.