Best Advice I Ever Took

Everyone gets advice when it comes to your wedding. Right from how to decorate, who the best band or Disc Jockey may be and where to have it. Caterers and flowers, proper wedding etiquette and Thank yous. Of course everyone is an expert so take the advice and choose what may be best for you, after all, everyone really means well.

Wedding advice is one thing, but marital advice is yet really another. We received lots of good advice on marriage and the do's and don'ts that go with it. But the best by far was the advice that my Grandmother gave me. After we had announced we were getting married she said she wanted to talk with me after the guests left.

When they left we sat in her living room, she had parakeets and they were just letting her know it was time for them to go to sleep. As they chattered away she said she would get them quiet and then we would sit a spell and talk. I was so nervous. Of all the people in the world, my grandmother was the queen in my life. She was the most wonderful person and I so loved and respected her, that I knew had she said not to marry him, well, I wouldn't have.

Finally she sat and i sat next to her on the couch. She took my hand and asked me if i really knew what changes were about to take place. I told her the truth, that I loved him and somehow we felt things would be great and work out. We talked about income,and family and jealousy as well as children in the future. After a the lengthy talk she said, "There's one thing that I will tell you that will always keep the lines of communication open." I asked her what that was and she replied "Never go to bed angry with each other, even if it means you talk all night." Now this to me at the time made absolutely no sense. But when we had our first big fight, We put it to use.

Our marriage had it's ups and downs, but we stayed married for twenty nine years. He passed away at forty nine years of age. Those words she gave me that night helped our marriage and I have to say it is very sound advice. We always made up or would tell each other Good night and I love you no matter how angry we may have been. The next day we would talk about the issue and usually laugh about each others reaction. Through all of this communication we were so close. He knew what I would say before I even said it. And the same for me with him.We were friends and partners in life and because of that advice, it was a very good marriage.