Best Friends and Trials and Tribulations of a Weary Life

The second week of September has truly brought back memories that keep me going on with my life. To begin this article in the best possible way, I have to start with what this story has always been about; it's about Me Shaun Jarmen and his lost search the last few months. I have been in the unemployment line for the last 7 months, with virtually much of my savings from the last 5 years being used up. I am facing a period of my life where I have been trying hard to reflect on my past and the mistakes I have made. I have been trying so hard to forgive myself for my stubbornness and for hurting myself and my own family.

It has not been easy. Only God knows that. I used to be a productive business owner who was quite successful despite his young age. But due to the major economic crisis and regulations that changed in my industry, I became a victim of the who had to close shop. And for months I have been string hard to find my purpose and my place as a man and to my family.

There will always be things in your life that you cannot or will not forget, if I had a choice to decide my life or choose it all over again. I would want those memories that I treasure most to never go away. People always find it surprising that the thing I value most in my life besides family is not the love of a woman but the friendship and love of my childhood best friend.

He was and always be part of my life when things were a lot less complicated and that life was a lot less troubling. Those days as young teenage boys doing foolish things and chasing skirts were fun and memorable. Spending our lazy Sunday afternoons playing soccer in some make believe soccer field was what me and him along with the rest of the gang were up to.

The troubles we encountered throughout the years that were most difficult, the ones we loved who left us even though we tried so hard. Those who laughed and tried to tear us down. We were always together as friend no matter what the rain or shine was. A man truly grows up with those people around him. I have always believed that they are so many friends around us but they are rarely any that really stay beside us through thick and thin. And throughout my mid teenage and early adulthood life, he was one who was always there. It was sometime back 3 years ago that I introduced him to a friend that would soon become the love of his life. We drifted apart for a while and although we met occasionally once or twice during the years in some pubs somewhere, I later discovered he has left to work in Australia. Seeing him always made me miss his friendship.

Last week I finally met him after so many years and for the first time, we really spent some time together as best friends always do. And all the years started to roll back, the things that mattered and those that mean nothing just vanished from my life. It has been a long while where I could find peace and trust someone. And he was that very strength in times of great pain and misery. Although we has but only 4 days together , it was truly memorable cause for once , there was no worries about work, air flights or girlfriends. It was just how it used to be back in the day.

I was happy to know that he has really madly in love with the lady I introduced him to. He was also doing quite well in his career and though the global economies were still unstable. I was pretty sure he would hang on to his job. I was also quite happy to learn that my best friend of 15 years was considering seriously to get married. Although a part of me realised that once he did, I would also lose him forever as I did with the rest of my childhood friends who now have their own families.

We spent those four days talking about everything. About life and about what it means to live this life. About the true meaning of love and that of being in a relationships. About finding love and also about giving and contributing to life. We both wanted a life with meaning and growth. The most truly amazing thing that it ink I learned was that no matter what part of life or where ever you may be, it is the decisions that we choose and the absolute faith in those decisions that ultimately with result in the thing we call our destiny. At this point of my life, no matter where or where I am at, it is still up to me to make things happen. That is the best piece of advice that he has ever given me all these years.

Everything that started will eventually have to end. He has to leave for Australia and the honest truth is most likely he will never be coming back. I may never know. But I am grateful that for just a little while in my life, that a true friend was there for me.

I may never know what tomorrow may be like, all I do know is that my past will not be how I look at the future and that I can make a difference in the life I am leading right now. No matter how bad the cards that life has handed me, I know I can still win the game of life if I keep my head up high and believe again in my dreams.

We always tend to take things for granted all our life's especially the very fact that we can wake up every day. We forget that the greatest resource we have is that the time o earth our Creator has given on. I am truly blessed that I had a best friend who popped back into my life when I truly needed a listening ear and steady guiding voice .The only thing that truly matters now is to direct my life back into the right direction and make things happen again.