Biggest Blunders Ladies Commit in Courtship

Are you unwittingly scaring the good men away? Before turning yourself from Cinderella into Pamela Anderson stop and consider carefully the kind of people you are trying to attract.

Ok, you are all made up, you look like a supermodel, or a movie star, you think people would jump on the opportunity to meet you, but quite the opposite turns out to be the case- people become intimidated by such display of splendor and choose to ignore the source. The men who will approach you will be the jaded, older type looking for a quick hook up, the men who prefer to control and use women, the men who don't get intimidated easily. If this is the type of man you are interested in- go ahead and do it.

Being too direct rarely pays off. Are you the type that knows what she wants and goes for it? When it comes to courtship and love you need to rethink the strategy. Signaling strongly your sexual availability can present you in the most unflattering light as a simple creature. Your lust will be a turn off to men who look for something more meaningful than just a quickie; strong sexual vibes may also intimidate some men. Learn to be more subtle, learn to control your desires- you are a lady!

Don't be too shy. Woman's lack of self confidence is a big turn off for most men. Very shy people perceive others to be better, more superior to themselves. This sense of inadequacy is promptly transmitted on subconscious level to the man, who will in turn begin to believe that, indeed, others are much better than her. The romance ends here. Remember we all have strengths and weaknesses, discover your strengths, capitalize on them. Very shy women may also miss out on an opportunity to meet the man they like because they fail to return a smile, or otherwise show interest. When ignored men assume the woman is not interested in them and move on.

Ladies may unwittingly limit their options of meeting the right man by creating an illusion of her success, power and wealth. Whether we like it or not, biologically males are wired to dominate, females to be submissive. Males have a need to feel superior and accomplished. Males will always be attracted to submissive females, not dumb, but who have accomplished less.

In relationships moving slow is usually the best approach, don't rush things, let the other person grow in his feelings and become comfortable in the relationship.