Biting Toddler

Biting is an age-appropriate actions among toddlers. The problem is the children, teachers, and parents aren't too excited about the results. So why are these toddler's biting? It would be nice if we understood why they are really biting, but they don't have the language skills to tell us. We can make some educated guesses.

-Frustration

It is hard for toddlers to explain what is happening in their life. They don't know to explain that something is irritating. Sometimes biting is a way of letting out of that frustration, like crying or throwing a fit. They don't see it as harming someone else, they are looking for a release.

-Self Assertion

Sometimes biting is a way of showing power or dominating. You can bit someone and get the toy. You might try it again if it worked the first time.

-Mimicking Behavior

Often toddlers see and then do. They may not even know why they are doing it. They have just seen it done.

-Attention

Toddler's like attention and it doesn't seem to matter if the attention is positive or negative attention. It just matters that an adult is paying attention to them.

So, how do you get the children to stop? The first time that the child bites some one else it needs to be addressed. "Stop", this is firm is said in a louder than normal voice. It's the same tone you would use if they were going to touch something hot. They should know that there is immediate danger and it must stop. You are looking to control the situation not scare the child.

Use your normal disciplining techniques. Don't bite the child, that sends the wrong message. If time out is your normal discipline method use it or whatever your current method may be. For example, my Mother would have slapped my hands and it would have been quite clear because that was the method she used. Go with what you have trained your child to respond to.

If you are a parent and know that there are stresses happening in the home, let educators know something is happening. Teachers can watch for potential biting situations and keep a closer eye on the situation if they are aware the child is frustrated. They may be able to prevent or limit the amount of biting.

Educators have the responsibility of telling parents about situations in day care or school so parents can follow through at home. You want to work together as a team to accomplish the desired behavior.

Remember biting is an age-appropriate action. You just need to limit the situation and handle it quickly.