Black Women Dating White Men
I was raised like many minorities; I had a single mother, a pay check away from poverty, and my father was totally absent. My husband on the other hand was raised with both parents, his dad owned his own cleaning business and even when his parents were divorced, he still maintained a close relationship with both parents. My family is very accpeting of him and most of his family accepting of me. I don't really think his family totally understands the life of someone who has been born out of wedlock, a minority, and poverty. Therefore, sometimes they sometimes they make me feel uncomfortable and judged.
Obviously, Lakeview Terrace isn't how everyday Americans deal with interracial couples with hate crimes and obscene behavior but, I do see the looks from black men and white women. Some white women look at us in disgust and the black men look at me like I'm a trader. Most black women act like it doesn't bother them unless they see a black man with a white woman and that's because black men have the reputation of not taking care of their wives and kids and then some of those same black men will get with a white woman a treat her like gold. I know exactly how it feels to have a father not take care of you and not show the tiniest bit of love to and then marry someone else and have three kids with them and be the trophy father to them. It doesn't feel good but, I don't believe individuals should be the voice for everyone that fit into their race bracket.
It's funny how so many things in the world are going wrong like the economy, gas, food, and many other things and people are actually bothered by people of different races being together. People should be happy that people love one another. I love my husband very much and I've dated African American, African, Caucasian, Asian, Dominican, and Bi-racial people. Love is love and skin color is like the color of eyes; they come in different shapes, colors, and sizes. I really believe that someday fifty percent of the population will be biracial. Look around, there is a strong possibility that the next president might be a biracial man and that has nothing do with the matter of him being able to get the job done or not. Most parents who have mentally challenged children don't hate their children because their different. When will this world learn what true love is. When someone has a heart of true love they don't just love one person but, they are able to love anyone; even their enemies.
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I was in South Bend, In in October of 1982. I joined the Air Force Reserves in 2001 and got married in 2005. We had a beautiful daughter our first year of marriag and another two year later. We try to live o... View profile
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Post a CommentBlack men have been brainwashed to appreciate white women and white women have been so well pampered that they are much gentler than many black women. I am a black woman and I am married to a white man. Black men prefer light and white but they want their dark skinned women to actually be THEIR slaves. They want to abuse and abandon us and then blame us for everything. The fact is, men are brainwashed into thinking that women are objects. Whites are valued objects and blacks devalued objects. A man will protect the object he sees as valuable.
White women give us many looks but they look away when they realize that I am equally as intelligent, come from the middle class and do not fear their ignorance. I was not raised around many black males and white males have always been attracted to me. The black males I was around preferred something other than me and only wanted to use me. Black women deserve to be happy. Their is no such thing as a race traitor. Let people be mad and stare...wh
I think that black women dating white men is the new slavery.
I see a lot of White people commenting on articles about Black men dating White women, but I don't see a lot of White people commenting on the issue of Black women dating White men. Why?
If you're a black woman interested in dating interracially, there is a blog that will be helpful for you called "For The Sistas." It also has posts on dating for black Christian women. Some of the posts are a bit long, but they aren't any longer than the cover story of a magazine article and I really do think they'll be useful to you. The blog address is ForTheSistas (dot) blogspot (dot) com. By the way, the blog also has information on dating men from Europe.
Black women need to get off this black-man-only band wagon because, for too many, it obviously is not working. I'm not saying don't date black men, just expand your options. Please forward this to other black women you know.
..contd from above: I'm a black woman in my 30s who has been happily married to a black man for several years, so I definitely believe there are some good black guys out there. However, black women need to expand their dating pool to include men of other races because there is a shortage of available black men for various reasons (chiefly, 1 million black men in prison and an increasing number of black men dating out of the race).
For black women who are interested in dating interracially, there are some blogs where you can get support and advice. I don't agree with everything that is on these blogs, but they are generally a good resource. One of the blogs is called Interracial Love and Spice by Sara and it is specifically geared towards black women and non-black men's relationships. On the right hand side, in the middle of the blog page, you will find links to other blogs that support black women who want to date interracially. Also, online dating is a really good way to meet guys of other races (I've heard BW say you should stay away from eHarmony, but that they had success with Singlesnet dot com, PlentyOfFish dot com and Match dot com).
I'm glad more black women are dating interracially. It makes me very sad that so many lovely black women like my sister are alone and have been waiting for their black prince for decades. I'm a black woman in my 30s who has been happily married to a black man for severa
What a wonderful article.