Black Women Are Trying to Get Our Attention, and We Aren't Listening as Usual

I only return to this topic when I truly have something new to say but it just hit me the other day; these idiots are out here trying to come across with ultra-masculine behavior as though "this is my woman, these are our women" because they are upset when these Black Women are involved in interracial relationships but they are missing the point. Why are Black Women taking to the Internet talking about these relationships and why do we see it in our face on the television and the big screen? Why is it that all of the sudden, we need to be reminded of what who we have lost out on.

If you have digressed to knee-jerk behavior and want to go after someone because they are with that girl that you never took the time out to talk to or cherish in the first place you have to ask yourself a few questions. "Do I miss what I had once its gone, why didn't I talk to that girl before why didn't I treat her in the way that she is saying this other guy does"? A lot of us went on with our lives and found a good Black Woman, married her and called it a night and we can still be friends with other Black Women. We do not care about what other Black Women are doing because our conscious is clear and we know that we have done right by at least one Black Woman. It may not be everyone, and I am not even sure that you can do right by everyone or that anyone will, but it was one person.

Why is it that you think that these women do not want you? Some girl is telling you that you are not a good provider or this other guy does this, that and the other essentially selling the romantic idea of how great it would be if you could do that. But if you really do these things yourself then you know that it is because they aren't hearing you, or had a negative experience with some other Black guy. So you are telling me what someone else can do for you but if they really are doing that for you then why are you telling me to begin with? How does that benefit me at all, or is it just for my own information the next time I see another Black Woman in the same situation that you claim that you are in so that I know how to treat her right? Have you really given me a chance to do it, do you like the way that I have done so or are you just saying this to get me to do it the way that he does it? Do not tell me what I am not doing when you are just infatuated with the angle in which it is presented to you and are not really that concerned about what it is that has been done to begin with. They want to be friends us they may say that they are no longer interested in Black Men romantically, and quite honestly you cannot help them with that they need to figure that out for themselves before they could realistically expect for you to be there for them but that is about what it amounts to. No one else would hear them out before, but everyone wants to hear what they have to say now, and someone is going to listen, or at least pretend to because if you don't someone else will. Is it a double standard, of course, it is wrong or something you may feel they had the audacity to undertake, well yeah but what else can you do. The more you resist the idea of what they are doing the farther in you are going to push yourself so what else would you do? Then we fall into the trap of speaking for all Black Men just because they have, which is a weak argument to even stand on because we know that we cannot speak for all Black Men any more than they can speak for all Black Women.

See I understand it perfectly because I went through the same thing myself and thought that the grass was greener on the other side. I have my own hangups that do not have anything to do with anyone else about why I could not take it to the next level based on what I saw on what where their initial reasons for being here which appeared to have nothing to do with me at all. So they just went on and found some other Black Man that was willing to hear them out, and that is okay because I have what I want. It is not to say that I am not attracted to other things that are out there, but I would also have to ask what it is that drives you in a certain direction and are you truly being sincere about your intentions for that other person. Because at the end of the day it can amount to the fact that you hate yourself a lot more than you are genuinely interested in something new whether it be a different race or even a different skin color. You should like who you are, be attracted to someone that is a reflection of your best qualities and traits why would you want to get away from what you are unless you do not like yourself. I am referring to people who consciously, literally, just want to get away from themselves not people who do not have any hangups or reservations. You can just be yet another person, out of millions, who are trying to get away from what you are through who you date.

Everyone is going to treat you wrong when you do not treat yourself right and everyone did and will again if I were to address my own issues by looking for something outside of myself when I already have the tools that I need with what I have been given. If, as a Black Man, you never did right by your sisters at all or you feel as though you cannot deal with her and that is your reason for getting into an interracial relationship yourself you are going to experience a reaction to seeing her with a White Man that you cannot fully contain. We all know that there is an information war going on and that everyone on-line, on television, on the big screen, has an agenda. Some of it involves race, class, gender, religion, anything under the sun. So why do we give into this rhetoric.

R. Kelly has a great song that talks about the fact that when a woman is fed up you can't do anything with her and should probably just move on. Now that song talks about the fact of having been in an intimate relationship with a woman so if some woman you do not even know is in a relationship with someone that you cannot fathom to understand why she is in that situation just move on already. We aren't cherishing these women and we certainly do not see them in that light nor are we willing to give them the respect that they deserve so you shouldn't loose any sleep over it. If you get to know them and find out that they have issues and do not even treat themselves right you should really get over it. That is what I typically find out, that these same women, have unresolved issues that no one is going to be able to address and that the issue of race is just a cover up or cloak that will not bring about the closure they seek.

Of course this is just what I see, and what they allow me to see and as far as they are allowing me to go. If you get caught up in that you have to ask yourself is this because you feel the need to prove something to them or to prove something to yourself? If you already have a Black Woman at home that you claim to love this is the best time to get out and leave on good terms. If you aren't in that great of a relationship yourself what makes you think that you two could really work something out when you both have issues that you think are with Black people but at the end of the day are really with the opposite sex? At least when you were with a White Woman it was a bit more honest so why would you even go there?

At best it is humorous that some of us are now interested in Black Women when they date outside of the race but we aren't that interested in them before. Particularly when we all date people that do not have our best interests at heart and we continue to do so when we get into interracial relationships. Your judgment does not just change overnight as though you have found some magical shortcut to happiness. I mean really, it is as bad as being infatuated with a girl because she also likes girls or is promising to perform some deviant sexual act with you because it is all smoke and mirrors to get you to pay attention to them when they cannot get your attention through traditional means. We are conditioned to accept a woman that has some angle; sexuality, pseudo-intellectualism, pseudo-spirituality, but we do not want to take the time out to really get to know a woman for who she is because that is boring and not so exciting. But a sucker is born every minute; just like these Black Men who are out here beating their chests just because Black Women decided to flip the script and date outside of their race for a change ...