Blame Game: Why It's Never Fair to Blame Anybody

A lot of us go through life blaming everyone except ourselves for all the wrong things that's happened to us. At the same time, for a considerable number of people, the exact opposite appears to be the case. They, on the other hand, tend to be very hard on themselves whenever something bad occurs --- to them, or perhaps, to someone close.

This should not be the case. Not only does this kind of attitude fail to address the real problem; oftentimes, it actually tends to put people in a far worse position than they already are in. When something untoward takes place, the proper way to deal with it is focusing on the problem itself and coming up with a solution to overcome it and maybe prevent it from happening again in the future. This, and not constantly find someone or something to point a finger at. A lot of things could have led to that event's occurrence. And many of them may very well have been beyond anybody's power to stop, even if the chances of it happening may have already been known beforehand.

This is a fact of life. Inasmuch as we have the power to direct ourselves towards the direction we wish our lives to pursue, there are also some things which we need not have to rationalize each and every time we chance upon them, or them happening to us. Some things are just bound to transpire, without us, or someone else for that matter, having to do with it. It's just the way things are.

And so, the next time we feel like indulging ourselves in this perpetual blame game, we should try to adopt the more appropriate outlook of dedicating ourselves to those aspects of life that we tend to have more control over with, as compared to those we can't. It's a more logical, not to mention more rewarding, experience. This way, not only do we direct our efforts at more worthwhile endeavors, we also avoid nurturing all these negative feelings toward ourselves and those people around us. When we do that, it's safe to say that if our lives again take a wrong turn in the future, we won't be too disappointed --- and we will be happier persons for it.