Blowing Things Out of Proportion

Every relationship will have problems. The sooner you come to terms with this the sooner you can focus more on fixing them. The number one way to solve problems that come up is to talk with everyone possible regarding the situation, weather it be with your significant other or friends. The talking aspect, when dealing with negative occurrences that take place during a relationship, will help keep things on a level where they won't get blown out of proportion. When one sits at home they may say that they are "thinking" about the situation, but they really are not. When it comes to relationship problems, if you are sitting around, doing nothing but "thinking" then you are really dwelling. Dwelling is where you can take a simple act of your significant other hugging someone of the opposite sex and tern it into that they are currently cheating on you, and have been your whole relationship. Dwelling is BAD!!!! The way to get around this is to talk with anyone and everyone you can. Doing so keeps the focus that you could have altered by yourself into the "blown out of proportion" direction, and keeps it focused on the actual problem at hand. In a conversation, the individual with the problem is able to talk freely regarding it, getting everything off there chest. After doing so the listener can then comment and start responding on the statements the problem'ed individual stated. This keeps the individual with the problem focused on the other person, keeping there mind on the subject so that they may then respond to that persons statement. In a relationship, blowing things out of proportion always hurts both individuals involved. So, great rule of thumb, try not to dwell upon a situation; in stead focus on the main issue with others before confronting your significant other with it.