Boredom in the Bedroom

Wow, now this is a topic to talk about. How many of you have been with someone for a while now ...6 months...6 years...6 decades and so on. Love is a beautiful thing but there are three parts to love or any healthy relationship, you got to have the
1.Emotional connection
2.Mental connection
3.Physical connection in the bedroom and out the bedroom

Which is the one I am going to talk about today. I have heard stories and complaints from so many couples who have been together for a while and they have just LOST it. Their sex drive for each other. It becomes repetitive same thing, same time,same positions everyday...ha ha ha...(sorry didn't mean to laugh), that is if it even is everyday now, usually it ends up becoming once or twice a week and for some even once a month. Now, alot of factors add up to why you have lost your sexual drive or why you just don't get turned on by your partner anymore. If youv'e been together and have a family, kids, work,financial problems can all cause stress or just plain tire you out so when it is that time to come together and spend some "quality" time together you either just roll over and go to sleep or do it to "Get it over with it", and then roll over. Nothing exciting.Plain.Boring.Lazy. Your thinking "Why did she just call me Lazy, if she just talked about how tired I must be"...listen up yea you probably tired but sex is not a chore, it's something that you should want to do with your partner even look forward to, use it as a stress reliever, besides if you do it right you get the best sleep afterwards.

Now if you are a couple, no kids, but yet you are still bored in the bedroom then here is my advice, actually there is none.You have work...ok so that adds stress, but you come home you have no one to cater to except yourself, you unwind,and relax. Now why are you bored in the bedroom? Lets see, let me think back a few years when I was still just dating my (husband), ha ha ha nevermind We were not bored because I always had the time to think of different ways to make things interesting. In other words what i'm trying to get you to see is you have plenty of time to do what you want yea you are tired from work, but like I stated before sex is a stress reliever especially if you make it fun, besides you don't have to worry about your noise level, you have no one around but the two of you. So get with it!

If you have extremely busy lives you should always set a night out for your partner and don't do it on the typical weekend, it's expected but get them on a weeknight so the next day they can go with a big smile on their face. If you got kids let grandma take them to school. Besides this is for your marriage/relationship. Speaking from a womens point of view I love it when my husband does something that is unexpected, especially when he has to work the next day yet he still does things to make me feel loved throughout the week. It shows me that I am still the most important person in his life and not his job which many couples feel about their partner. Ladies and Gents always and I mean always put your partner first so what you gotta work, work is not priority, yea it puts food on the table and a roof under you but in the end it is your partner that is gonna be with you, if you don't lose them in the process of "I'm too tired".

So my readers who are curious on how to not be so bored with sex, if you haven't been paying attention here is a few other trick that might just help you out (this is for the begaining stages of turning your boredom around).

The key thing to changing it up is use aphrodisiacs which is derived from the greek goddess of love Aphrodite. Aphrodisiacs are used to increase sexual pleasure and performance, and it can be found in some of the food you eat or the scent of the candles or oil you burn. Get your night started with sensual aphrodisac food. Such as strawberries with cream or chocolate as an added bonus. Mango is another one,Wierd but true...tomatoes also knows as love apples( I wonder why), and ladies get the bannana it has alot of zinc and potassium which equals male potency, and another one that comes to mind is peaches and ripe figs, (similiar to that of female sex organs...wonder what that will get them in the mood for huh?), and incase you haven't caught on yet these are all finger foods so get Creative.

Here is the age old traditional setting that still works till this day. First of all you already know get a dim setting not complete darkness!, you want to see your partner in all their beauty. Rose Petals...all over the bed and if you feel like going all out there maybe even on the floor and in the bath that you set up for them RIGHT?, or you can use the bath idea for another night. See if you can get your hands on some egyptian cotton or Sateen sheets. For all you men in particular( who never went to buy sheets based on the material) I don't mean Satin....Sateen!!!, besides satin is to overrated, and get some nice fluffed up pillows, try to make the first night a sensual suprise. Get scented jasmine candles,oil, or incense and let the smell flow through out the room.But don't make it too strong by having tons of them just one is enough.Music...slow music. Soulful R&b or Jazz will do the trick. And last but not least get some massage oils and lotion...the edible kinds are the best. Now remember this is just for that first night you want to suprise your partner, don't do this everytime or this too will become repetitive and once again you too will be bored. As you have noticed all I talked about was the atmospere not anything else... I know your sitting there wondering "when is she gonna get to the positions"...ha ha ha slow down! The atmostphere and the feel of it is the most important thing when all that is set up everything else falls into place. Remember when your partner feels appreciated they will go above and beyond to make sure you feel "appreciated."

Now here is the main reason why bedroom boredom happens... you and your partner fail to talk about it. You NEED to talk about your needs. Communication is the key. Ok I gave you a little insight into bedroom boredom and how to overcome the FIRST step, now it is up to you to communicate with your partner about your needs and wants and make it fun everytime...hopefully everynight!