Breakup Grief

Understandably you are tempted to give up trying after maybe some fruitless attempts to get back together with your ex. Possibly you already gave up on reversing the situation. You might think it would be easier to sulk and to dive into your breakup grief, you are in a state of shock and stopped trying to proactively get back together. Well, by saying to yourself it's hopeless and impossible, you are leisurely taking on the wrong mindset that seals your fate.

Even though what you experience is a fatal blow, there is no reason to call it quits, if you didn't give it your best shot to reverse your breakup and grief. There are different steps you can take to turn the Titanic around and get back with your ex, but first you will have to remove the "impossible mindset" from your thought patterns. Are you a victim of the "impossible trap"? The "impossible" is a myth. "All" things are possible to you and if you keep looking for solutions and keep trying, you cannot be stopped. There are no Alps for you. Let not defeat pull you back from getting up again and trying "one more time" or even "many more times".

Carlo Rubbia, Nobel Prize winning Physicist once said: "I don't believe I have special talents, I have persistence... After the first failure, second failure, third failure, I kept trying." And there is Washington Irving, who said: "Little minds are tamed and subdued by misfortune; but great minds rise above them." Granted, there is always that possibility that your breakup is irreversible, but how would you know that this is the case for sure, before you have thoroughly considered any and all options to come out of your grief and taken action.

After a traumatic experience such as a break up, instead of frantically calling your ex every five minutes, or giving up altogether, do something that will help you to calm down. Something out of the ordinary, a proven method of relaxation that will distract you and help put you at ease. Go for a walk out in the nature, meditate upon the flowers, the trees, the beautiful blue sky for a little, just go out and clear your mind - this works wonders. Then get back to finding solutions in a less frazzled frame of mind. Looking for solutions equals "not giving up". You are not stuck in the "impossible trap" and in the pit of grief anymore.

My core message here is "do not give up prematurely". Don't tell yourself it's hopeless or impossible. Do not coexist with depression and grief. Human nature is such that after a fatal blow we assume the worst and start mulling over it to the nth degree, until we start believing it. However, that worst scenario might not last at all, if you start again with a new round of attempts, armed with fresh solutions after you found out which specific steps to take. Breakup grief might be the one thing you will not have to live through.

And with the use of specific techniques, you can get back with your ex and rebuild something that will last for life. Go to my blog breakup-grief.blogspot.com or my site www.squiddoo.com/breakupgrief to find out more about these techniques.