Bridezilla Attacks: A First Hand Account

Every woman wants the perfect wedding. The perfect dress, the perfect flowers, the perfect ceremony, but what happens when striving for that perfection you turn into an ugly selfish monster. I was asked to be in a friend's wedding, whom I had know for over 10 years, and without even thinking replied "of course I'll do it." That was my first mistake. She had asked me when the wedding was over a year away and I did not give it a second though until about 8 months before the wedding. That is when it started. Slowly this friend who I had grown up with turned into this hideous monster.

Usually going to see the bridesmaid dresses is fun, well not when you find out that the dress is going to cost you $350.00. I couldn't believe it, my own wedding dress was only $150 more than a bridesmaid dress. I grudgingly handed over the down payment and hoped that somehow I could justify this to my husband., as at that time I had just quit my job to be a stay at home mother. About 2 months later, I received a call from the bride about her bridal shower. She had already picked out the date, a day that I already had plans on, and basically told me that she had the whole thing planned. She was inviting 100 people and was having it catered for $15.00 a person. She also proceeded to tell me that I was to split the cost of the shower between the five bridesmaids. What? A bride that plans her own shower and then expects the bridesmaids to just pay for it? I tried to get things cheaper, but she fought tooth and nail for everything she wanted. So not only did I have to shell out $500 for a bridal shower, but I also had to sell out an addional $400 at the bachelorette party. The bride wanted to start it out at the spa and then to dinner at a fancy downtown eatery and then of course out for drinks around town. Well, she did not pick the cheapest places to go to. Again, she threw a fit and stated that she wanted to go to these places and it was her party, even though she did not have to dish out one single cent.

Finally, the wedding was here and I though that I was in the clear now. Let's just say I have never seen a grown women act so immature in my life. While having hair and makeup done, the bride just started ranting and raving, telling the stylist that she did not know what she was doing and she was ruining her wedding day. Talk about embarrassing. That went on for about twenty minutes and finally the bride's mother was able to calm her down and convince her that she looked beautiful. Then the photographer showed up thirty minutes late, which caused another huge outburst. Yes, he was late, but the twenty minutes she took to yell at the man, made her even later. Finally, we left for the church, well the bride had been drinking mimosas all morning and while in the limo she proceeded to tell us that she felt sick and it was because the limo driver did not know how to drive, but no one dared to mention the four glasses of mimosa that she had drank this morning. Thank goodness the ceremony went off without a hitch and then the pictures afterwards were okay too. When we finally got to the reception hall, the bride pulled all of the bridesmaids aside and actually apologized for the way she had behaved this morning. All was forgiven, except for the fact that after all was said and done I had spent a month's worth of income for my family and not once did the bride say thank you.

So if you are planning a wedding, please take a step back and look at what you are doing. You can have the perfect wedding but you do not have to be a bridezilla in the process.