Building Confidence in 30 Days or Less

This Guide Is For You
This guide is for both men and women with low self esteem. Low self esteem seems to be a huge epidemic. People in general are not too happy with themselves, and that is why we have things like casual plastic surgery for the rich. The rest of us just get drunk. If you are ready for a change, then you have come to the right place.

How Do You Feel About Yourself?
This is the part that most people with low self esteem like to avoid. You can't hide from yourself, so you can do this part with or without a mirror. Most people who aren't happy with their physical appearance won't do anything about it. Find out what you like and don't like about yourself. Don't focus on things you can't change. For example, if you aren't good at reading, and cringe everytime you need to read in public, start reading more. Read anything you can find, and read it out loud to yourself until you feel comfortable with it.

If you want to lose weight, gain weight, or just tone up, go get a gym membership and use it. If you're a guy and you have never been to the gym, you should go. After you finish working out, you feel like you look different, even if you don't. Adrenaline and testosterone seem to boost your confidence almost instantly.

Don't stress over your "flaws" because they are what make you unique. If you want to change something about yourself, by all means, do so.

Building On Your Strengths
This is probably one of the easiest things to do. If you are good at something, do it more often. It will help you build your confidence.

Eliminating Weakness
As previously stated, if you aren't good at something, practice in your spare time until you get good at it.

Do You Care What They Think?
Of course you care what other people think. That is usually the source of low self esteem. Most of the time, low self esteem comes from years of negative comments about your appearance or just you in general as a person. People have a desire to fit in and not stand out from the crowd. If that is your desire then you will probably always have low self esteem.

Who Are You And Why Do I Care?
That is the question you need to ask when someone has something negative to say about you. Here is a checklist to find out if their opinion matters.

1. Do they pay your bills?
2. Do they live with you?

If the above two don't apply to them, their opinion doesn't count. Even if they do live with you and pay your bills, so what. Ultimately, you are the only person that has to live in your skin, so only your opinion of yourself actually matters.

I'm Great!!!
These two simple words will change your life. Just start saying it and you will start to believe it. You can use different variations to fit the situations. For example, if someone asks why you are so happy, respond with, "Because I'm great." No matter what they say, keep responding with it. Usually, you will get someone who will say, "You're not as great as you think you are." To which, you can respond, "Yeah, I'm pretty sure I'm greater than I think I am." Occasionally, you will bump into the person that will say, "Yes you are." Most of the time, you will annoy people who don't want you to feel confident in yourself.

The point is not to annoy people (which you will do.), but to break the chains of oppression. People with low self esteem usually seek to oppress people with high self esteem. If you even look like your self esteem is too high, some people will get mad. We define those people as "HATERS." The thing that bothers them more than your high self esteem is that fact that you are totally eliminating their personal opinion of you.

By calling yourself great inspite of what they say is telling them that they don't matter and neither does their opinion.

Converting The Masses
If you believe that you are great and say it alot, eventually people that you are around alot will start to jump on board. Usually, they will jump off the hate train and start to agree with you. Try this for 30 days and see if your self esteem doesn't shoot through the roof. I've been doing this since I was 19 years old and I'm 25 now. I'm no longer the shy guy who won't approach the girl that seems out of my league. In fact, in my own head sometimes, I wonder why I'm even allowing them to be in my presence. Don't worry, it's just a common side effect of high self esteem. As long as you keep that part to yourself, nobody will ever know that you're thinking it.

Excercises
Here are some excercises to help get you started.

1. Tell yourself you are great in the mirror at least once per day.
2. Tell yourself you are great while you are driving or just by yourself.
3. Whenever you win a game, say, "I'm greatness." or use some variation of the statement.

The more you say it, the faster you will believe it.

Example Responses
What are you doing today?
I'm probably just going to lay around and be great.

You're not that great.
You're crazy, I'm probably the greatest person you know.

What makes you so great?
The fact that you want to know why I'm great, because if I wasn't, you wouldn't care.

You should really stop saying that.
Does it bother you that I'm great?

There are an unlimited number of responses you can give when your greatness is being questioned. Until then, enjoy your new self esteem.

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