Calming Your Pre-Wedding Jitters

Getting married is one of the biggest decisions of our life and so it is very natural to feel nervous with such a big event looming on the horizon. Your wedding is going to be one of the most stressful events in life. The anxious feelings that you get before your wedding are not just prone to one gender, both men and women suffer through them. With that being said, how can you deal with these feelings before and on the big day? Ask yourself what the causes of these jitters are. Is it just simply a case of healthy jitters or are they something much more serious?

Certain anxieties in life can be good. It helps us plan, focus, work harder and take steps to see the action come to fruition. Extreme anxiety can suddenly appear with such a large and important event. There are major differences between wedding planning jitters and cold feet. Serious problems that should throw up a red flag and be addressed prior to the wedding are things such as cheating, drug and alcohol abuse, or abuse towards you in any fashion. However, most of our pre-wedding and wedding jitters are internal and perfectly normal. They are caused by the idea of a 'perfect' wedding. It is normal to want your special day to be perfect, but because of this pressure, we tend to overwhelm ourselves with preparation.

Here are some ways that you can work through your jitters and make your day a happy and fairly stress free one:

-Realize you can't control everything. There are certain things that are out of your hands and once you realize this, you will enjoy the experience a lot more. We tend to put a lot of pressure on ourselves to make the day 'perfect' but seem to forget that life is not!

-Talk things over with your fiancée. If something is stressing you out, sometimes all you need is a second opinion to help you think it through. Talk to each other about your doubts and fears.

-Set aside some time to get away for a few hours with your fiancé and have a 'wedding free' evening, where you can relax and enjoy each other's company. This will help you remember why you are getting married in the first place.

-Go to a quiet place and try to get in touch with your feelings in order to determine what is stressing you out and figure ways that you can calm these pre-wedding jitters.

-Write down your feelings. Why not take this opportunity to start a journal? Once issues are on paper, they might not seem so enormous to you and this might even help you with a solution.

-Determine what the cause of your jitters are. Is it the wedding itself with all the planning or your relationship? This can help you decide how significant these fears are.

-Enlist the help of others! If the are things that are causing jitters are such duties as sending out invitations, get friends and family members to help you.

-Seek out pre-marital counseling. This will help with dissipating any fears or anxieties that you might be experiencing before the wedding.

It is easy to say that you should relax and enjoy both your wedding day and the preparations, but that is usually easier said than done. Try to cut yourself (and your partner) some slack both before the wedding and during and hopefully it will be a day to remember.