Can Cheating Save Your Marriage?

There are those who believe that cheating satisfies the "itch" couples sometimes get after being married for any length of time. This is simply not true. Cheating does not save a marriage. On the contrary, it could destroy what there is left.

If a person is contemplating infidelity as a method of saving their marriage then sex is obviously the driving force of the problem. Counseling would be a much wiser avenue. When we truly love the one we married we know deep down inside that cheating would be absurd.

Communication is essential in any successful relationship. However, communication doesn't come as easy to some, which is where counseling can be of great help. Professional counselors are trained to help couples communicate without fear of being embarrassed or belittled for their feelings.

According to the Bible, a husband and his wife are supposed to come together often. (1 Cor. 7:5) but in some cases a rift develops between them and their sex life begins to deteriorate. One may feel put upon while the other feels neglected.

Jesus Christ refers to the church as His bride. He gave His life for her. The woman was created from man and for man. A man is supposed to cherish his wife and love her the way Jesus loves the church and though we are equal in the eyes of God we are incredibly different.

Men in general, have a different attitude when it comes to sex and women need to consider that. At the same time, men also need to realize the differences; along with the fact that how he treats his wife will have a tremendous effect on the way she feels about him when it comes to sex.

When a man is grouchy and irritable or overbearing, it can cause hard feelings which, likely as not, his wife will carry with her to bed. She may not even be aware of these feelings but they can hinder her sexual desires. Exercising a little self discipline during the day, keeping temper and attitude in check, could make a big difference.

Many women carry heavy burdens. Trying to hold down a job and run the house can take a lot out of a woman and men know this. Nevertheless, they expect the wife to turn on like a light bulb and when this doesn't happen, he's a walking freezer unit the next day. However, it's not that men don't realize how hard the wife works. He works hard too, yet he's feeling amorous.

If every once in a while a man took care of dinner and ran his wife a nice bath instead of watching the game on television or loosing himself in his favorite pastime, she would have a much different attitude as the evening winds down. And let's face it ladies, an evening of intimacy will almost guarantee that he won't be complaining about burnt toast the next morning.

Men and women alike have different needs and if they spent more time considering the feelings of the other, there would be much less stress on their marriage. Cheating may satisfy physical needs but the problem with the marriage will still exist. If you believe that cheating will enable you to have your cake and eat it too, remember the dog and the bone and a bird in the hand. Why risk everything?

If you feel that your sexual needs are not being met, take it to God in prayer. And if you think your sexual frustration is NOT something to take to God, you are mistaken. After all, He created us so it should seem rather obvious that He knows a little something about what makes us "tick".

"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord." (Col. 3:18)

"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it." (Eph. 5:25)

Cheating is a risky "all or nothing" game that nine times out of ten results in nothing.