Can a Drunken One Night Stand Lead to Something More Serious?

I was checking my business email account and found a request for a Question and Answer. It was from 32 year old male named Deonte in Washington, D.C. The letter basically gave a situation that he was 32 years old and ready to settle down. He said the older he gets the more difficult it seems to find a quality woman. The email went on to say that he went to a popular nightclub in the area for his brother's 40^th birthday. While at the club having drinks with the fellas he saw a petite female with short hair and a tight body. The female caught his attention; she came to their table and drank, talked, and danced with him for the remainder of the evening. She said she was a registered nurse and that she worked many hours, and usually didn't go out to clubs.

The After party

When it was time for the club to let out he walked the female to her car to make sure she got home safely. The female frankly admitted to him that she was lonely and would like to take him home for the night. He questioned this at first then agreed. Deonte and the female rode in a cab together to her home. A night of lustful sex ensued. She was very sexually experienced, and open giving perhaps too much of herself. He awoke in the morning and the woman had made him breakfast in bed. He ate quickly, thanked her for the food, and then started to leave. She asked him if she could see him later on that night and gave him her phone number. Deonte's question to me is if he should even consider dating this female on anything other than a strictly physical level given the fact he met her at the club.

The Answer

Given the fact that the woman has a steady profession, good conversation, good looks, and made you breakfast in bed I would say it's at least worth a try if you've let it cross your mind. I believe if you weren't really into it you would have thrown the number in the garbage on you way from her house. Let's be quite frank here, not everyone that goes out to a nightclub is out there to score sex. You said yourself that you were there for your brother's birthday party. Does the fact that she met you there change your perspective? At the same time I would advise to keep your guard up as with any new relationship. You just have to decide for yourself if waiting out the beginning stages of getting to know this woman is worth it. You take a risk dating anyone new and the stakes are increased given the manner in which you met her. You should also consider the fact that when you start a relationship off on a purely physical basis in a casual way that you might not even be able to look at her in a romantic way. Ask yourself if you can have the same amount of respect that you might with another woman. Everyone is different so there is really no right answer in general. There is just a right answer for you. My suggestion is to try your hand at it. At least then there will be no regret of not knowing what might have happened. You did say you're looking to settle down so leaving stones unturned so to speak might be unwise at this point.