Can Friends Be Toxic to Your Marriage?

Friends can be such a treasure. They are there when we need an ear to listen, a shoulder to lean on or some good advice. Some friends are actually closer than family. Being there for all the bad times, and the good, in your life. How could a friend be "toxic" for your marriage?

Some friends simply don't mesh well once you have tied the knot. Maybe they don't get along with, or approve of your spouse. Maybe they feel uncomfortable as a third wheel. Then, there are the types of friends who truly do seem poisonous for your marriage.

The jealous friend. This person has likely always felt as if he or she needed to compete with you. Own nicer clothes, have the better job and, of course, marry first. There is nothing quite as toxic as pure, old fashioned jealousy. Be careful that this friend doesn't start competing for your mate's attention.

The good time pal. This is the one that always knows who is having the latest party, where it will be and what should be worn. He or she likes to arrive early and be the last one to leave a good time. This friend might become irritated that he or she has lost their party pal when you walked down the aisle. Her constant invitations may be more than you want to deal with.

The flirtatious friend. Remember that time in high school when she stole your date on prom night? Or how about last year at the nightclub when you pointed out that attractive man, and she immediately began making the moves on him? That same friend is not likely to draw any lines simply because you've married. Watch your husband around this one.

The needy friend. Every Friday morning she called to ask what your plans were for the weekend. You always knew that you had to include her, or she would feel hurt. Now that you are married and not up for nights out every weekend, she may set up camp in your spare room. Still wanting to be deeply involved in your life, oblivious to your need for alone time with your spouse.

These are just a handful of examples. No matter how much we love a friend, or how long they have been in our lives..... they sometimes don't make the transition well when we marry. One should never start dumping friends after the wedding, but it is wise to keep an eye open for any potential trouble.