Can Love Last in a Marriage-Part I

Many marry or have a relationship and say they love one another? For a season they may be inseparable and virtually can't keep away from one another. Initially there is much passion! But all of sudden something can happen and it all changes? You don't quite feel the same...

Many often really just fall for the "idea" of marriage rather than the marriage itself! A turning point in the relationship happens and there is a dramatic change of heart! Unexpectedly they almost develop a complete turnabout and have a repugnant aversion towards one another. All of a suddenly they are often at one another's throats and no longer want any part of one another... Their words have now become poisonous volatile daggers sent to tear and erode the very core of one another's being! Resentment is now a constant companion in their marriage. Can the marriage make it...?

One must make a conscious effort to keep their marriage a priority if they want it to last! A treasured career, or cherished possessions like a car, boat, home, valuable jewelry, or even a pet is often given more consideration than a marriage these days! There is a growing trend to devalue the significant importance of a lasting committed marriage.

Love means many different things to many people these days. Love has become a word that is used quite loosely! Loyalty and commitment are becoming scarce! When you say; "I love you!" It does not always mean the same thing to the person on the receiving end. To one it may mean how you make me feel? To one it may mean what you do for me? To one love means letting me do what I want, setting limits on me means you do not love me? To another love changes like the weather? I am here for the good but see you around when ... To one it can be very one sided they take, take and take...

In fact quite often in marriage they now can say we "no longer" love one another after something happens? They have now in fact fallen out of love?

My questions are? How can you fall out of something as deep as love? Was it really love in the first place? I don't think so... it is quite okay if we don't agree. However, I believe in the moment they simply cared somewhat or had a rather strong attachment that just created some very strong desire...

For many this is what I call a growing trend towards "intoxicating affections!" You are initially so enthralled or "caught up" with one another... You have your best face and foot forward... This can go on for months or perhaps a few years ... Intoxicating meaning; Intensely exited or overjoyed almost to a frenzy! Affections meaning: Fondness or deep tender feelings. Put the two together and that is what they momentarily call love? Intoxicating affections do not last! They simply at some point dissipate and wear off and leave a bad feeling or should I say an "emotional hangover!" When the charisma and charm wears off so does the emotions that mimic love.

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