Can Parents Raise Boys Who Grow Up to Commit Domestic Violence? Read This - You Decide

My son punched the neighbors son,
The neighbors son cried,
And we said "oh he is a baby,"
And we said "our son is strong boy."

My son hit his female cousins,
They tattled on him,
And we said "don't be a tattle tale."
And we said "he is just rough-housing."

My son made fun of his classmates,
He even made them cry,
And we said "they're just words."
And we said "they shouldn't wear their feelings on their sleeves."

My son killed the family pet,
And he thought it was funny,
And we said "it is just an animal,"
And we said "he won't do it again" and failed to punish him.

My son hit his younger sibling,
Who saved his big brother a candy bar to earn his love and approval,
And we said "just sibling rivalry."
And we said "they will be friends as adults."
(And we let him eat that candy bar anyway.)

My son has some porno mags,
Hidden in his room-he is ten,
And we said "he is normal."
And we said "it shows he likes girls."

My son's fiance broke up with him,
She says he was unfaithful and abusive,
And we said "how can that be?"
And we said " that is not how we raised him."

My son's wife pressed charges against him,
He tried to make her have a miscarriage,
And we said "now how can that be?"
And he said "he don't want to pay for no kid."

My son's sitting in jail today,
He threatened to kill his wife because he did not want to split the assets in a divorce,
And threatened to kill his baby because he doesn't want to pay child support,
And we said " that is not how we raised him."

This poem is dedicated to all the domestic violence victims and domestic violence survivors who have to deal with in-laws who are in denial to the abusive selfish child that they indeed raise from birth. [Note: This poem is created from the case study of 1 - only one - serial domestic violence offender in the US and his parents-all elements are true except unfortunately this is a case from Florida so he is not in jail, he is a free man in the US, hopefully no one you love will get involved with someone like this]

"Train up a child in the way he should go,
Even when he is old he will not depart from it."

How is the wisdon of the last 50 to 100 years in child rearing and education doing? Is it working?
Not really, not in a modern country like the US where 25% or more of the women are dealing with domestic violence, women and children are being killed daily due to domestic violence, and the children are being kidnapped, molested, raped, and killed daily by pedophiles. Maybe we need to take a look at old wisdom: Train a child the way he should go (from birth, children are never too young to be taught the right way) and even when he is old he will not depart from it (even when - means he won't depart from it - even when grown, even when old). Don't baby your children or make excuses for them, train them up to be thinking, considerate, kind, and mature individuals from birth.

"Train up a child in the way he should go,
Even when he is old he will not depart from it." Proverbs 22:6

What is the proper response to victims of domestic violence?
"When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. Then he said to his disciples, "The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few." Jesus in Matthew 9:36-37

~Have compassion and DO SOMETHING ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE:
Change laws, create shelters, and fund programs to help victims. Shelters and domestic violence support groups don't stop abuse but they do create a space to prevent some domestic violence deaths. According to statistics, domestic violence abusers usually commit child abuse and are far more likely to commit child sexual abuse-if given the opportunity like alone time through court ordered visitations-so stop supporting legislation that gives domestic violence offenders opportunities to abuse and influence their young children. Create new laws and legislation in your areas before your daughter or grandchild has to be beaten, threatened, injured, or killed to get your attention. Prevention is the best medicine.

~If you don't think you or your family will ever be affected by domestic violence or abusers, you are wrong: If you pay taxes or drive in traffic, then you have influence on the situation and could be victimized yourself. Domestic violence offenders also tend to experience road rage; however, when they "act out" they are not just cursing at you and flicking the bird, they are tail-gaiting you, bumping you, trying to drive you off the road, kicking your car side in, beating you up or shooting you dead at the next traffic stop. [Sadly EACH and EVERY one of these examples are from real cases with real people involved]. Don't turn a blind eye.

~Start Now to Help Prevent DV - Request a National Serial Domestic Violence Offender Registry for the US Be Created:
Send a brief note to the White House to request one-this would prevent domestic violence offenders from jumping county to county and state to state to create new victims and families. This would save tax payers money, prevention is less expensive. Take me to the White House Contact Form,click here.

Does someone who commits domestic violence and child abuse "love" their victims?
He who says: 'I love God, but hate my brother,' is a liar; for if one does not low one's brother whom one sees, how can one love God Whom one does not see?" 1 John 4:20

Abuse Is Not Love
~Society would see more clearly if they quit accepting and/or giving abusers the excuse "yes, you love her but..." Abuse is not love. Period. Losing self control is not love. Period. How can one abuse, terrorize, torture, or threaten the one they love? You cannot, if you loved them, you would not act that way. Love is an action-in the positive direction-these people, abusers and defenders of the "good intentions of abusers," are greatly misinformed on what love is and justice would be.

Abuse Is Not Loving Behavior - Abuse Is Selfish Behavior That Can Kill or Injure Other People
~Realize abusers do not love. Abusers tend to believe that they are usually "loving people who act out in anger or when provoked." Uneducated loved ones, some therapists, some clergy, and society tend to support this belief; hence, abusers aren't even motivated to change. Why not? They believe if the wife just submitted or did not express her opinions or displeasure or if the children just obeyed, they would not be abusers. Abusers blame the environment for their triggers, they do not accept full responsibility for the fact that they can and do choose their response as they snap from irritation to punching or biting. Then abusers move from victim to victim leaving a wake of victimized women and children behind. Abusers are people who have the control of a two year old when angry in a man's body-a very dangerous and deadly combination.