Can You Register for Gifts for a Second (or Third) Child?

The birth of a baby, or any baby, is an exciting time. Whether you are having your first or your fifth child, there will undoubtedly be things you need to prepare your home and your family for your new arrival. You may have registered for your first child with ease, but are wondering if creating a registry for subsequent children is tacky. Here's what etiquette, real moms, and practicality has to say.

What etiquette says...
According to Stork Net, it's perfectly acceptable to register for baby gifts, or even to have a shower, for a second child. While this may have been more taboo in years past, registering isn't seen today as a request for presents, but a way of telling people what you may need the most. Baby shower etiquette has, in this regard, relaxed some in recent years. In fact, even etiquette guru Emily Post notes that it's fine to host a baby shower for someone expecting a child, no matter if it's their first or third.

What real moms have to say...
Real mom of three, Angela Chicklinski, recently commented on the phenomenon of registering for gifts for a second or third born child, stating, "Each baby is a blessing and worth celebrating!" Other mothers agree--in fact, I've had quite a few friends (some moms, and some moms-to-be) ask if we're registering for this baby, our third. It seems that younger generations seem to be more understanding of the benefits of registering.

What's practical?
In fact, registering for a second, third, or subsequent child is very practical. Some stores, like Babies R Us, offer a 10% off coupon near your due date for items that aren't purchased off of your registry, which moms and dads know can certainly help save money on those must-have baby items.

In addition, registering for baby items allows parents to tell their friends and family members what items didn't outlast their older children. This way, there's no guesswork involved in purchasing a little something for a baby on the way or a new arrival. You can quickly and easily let everyone know what you have and what you still need, all in one place.

Finally, registering for your child, whether he or she is your first or fifth, helps you get excited. You'll see what's new and on the market, which is especially helpful if you have a large gap between your children. You may find out about a five-point harness in a carrier car seat, when your older kids were in a three-point harness. You may notice new guidelines for crib safety or reminders about the Back-to-Sleep campaign. Registering can really be an eye opener for parents, no matter what number child this is for them!

So, contrary to popular opinion, registering for a second child doesn't break all the rules of etiquette. As baby shower etiquette becomes a bit more relaxed, adults seem to realize the benefits of registering, no matter how many children you have.

Resources:
Emily Post; What Would Emily Do? Best Question Archive 2005; http://www.emilypost.com/questions/2005archive.htm
Stork Net; Baby Shower Etiquette; http://www.storknet.com/cubbies/babyshowers/etiquette.htm#18
Angela Chicklinski; Personal Interview
Babies R Us; http://www.babiesrus.com