Can Second Marriages Work?

Can second marriages work? Yes I do believe that they can, but this is not to say that this will be easy. With second marriages there are sometimes children from one or both of you. These children if there are any will definitely play a major factor in how hard this will be. Many children do not like to have stepparents and will try to make things more difficult for you. There must be a lot of patience and understanding for these children. They will most likely not make things easy for you in the beginning, but with time you might just be able to be someone they will look up to.

Just because someone is divorced does not mean that they can never live with someone or are difficult to live with. There are always two sides to a story and before you get married long talks about the way you want your life together and your expectations should be deeply discussed. Communication is definitely a key to a successful second marriage.

I am a partner in a second marriage. My husband was married to someone else before me. My situation is quite different possibly since this man was also my first love. He got another girl pregnant and married her. Unfortunately, this marriage did not last and one day he came back to me. We spent two years together before we married and I was lucky his two children loved me. I took them everywhere with me and treated them as my own. It is important if there are children to spend a good amount of time with them before you marry and make sure you can accept them for whom they are. In a lot of cases you might also have to be prepared for them to not like you.

In many ways I do feel someone who has been married before knows and understands the ins and outs of marriage. Hopefully, they have learned what it takes to be a team and work things out. They have learned to compromise and will not want to be involved in another marriage that won't work out. They will be more open to communication and probably put forth more effort to keep things in your relationship happy. It is also important to not put yourself in situations where you are comparing yourself to the ex-wife. You are now the wife and the past needs to not be a focus on your marriage.

I have been married now for 17 years to someone who was married before. We are sharing a life I love; we have a happy home and two happy children. If we had maybe married when we were younger it might not have worked out. I think his first marriage taught him a lot about himself and have turned him into the man I could not live without.