Can You Spoil a Child with Love?

We have all seen that child in the supermarket who screams their head off when they do not get picked up or held when they want to be. Sometimes we see the embarrassed parent then give in to their temper tantrum to calm the child. We shake our heads, wondering how they can spoil their child like that. Is it really spoiling your child to show them constant love? No! It simply is not possible to love your child too much, and show them that you love them. If children did not have caring adults to spend time with them, and show them that they are cared about, they would never enjoy life.

The main job description of a parent is someone who loves their child unconditionally and keeps them safe and healthy. Growing up is not an easy thing to do. Life is going to throw difficult tasks at your child, causing them to turn to you for encouragement and understanding. Giving them what they need is not going to spoil them. It will, however, show them that you are someone they can turn to and count on in hard times. What is so bad about that?

Now, I am not suggesting that you let your child do whatever they want. Children need appropriate limits and someone to enforce those limits. Many parents do not like enforcing the rules because they do not want their children to view them as mean or cruel. They may instead beg their child to do as they wish, or nag at them when they do not, without ever really enforcing the rule with the child. That does not help the child learn anything. You must be firm, yet kind, when responding to your child's disobedience. You need to determine the best way to deal with your child. Some children do well with a direct approach, telling them that they are not obeying and stating the consequences. Other children will do just find with a simple reminder to follow the rules. Whatever the case may be, you need to be sure to enforce the rules upon your child. No one ever said that you could not enforce the rules with a loving nature.

Holding your child or showing them love is not a form of spoiling them. It is a form of showing them that no matter how often they may disobey you, you still love them unconditionally. There is no need to make your children fear you in order to get them to give in to your wishes. By loving and nurturing your child, you will encourage them to turn to you when they need something or do not understand your wishes. In turn, it will make it all the easier to get them to do as you wish.