Can You Tell If Someone is Lying?

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Most people assume that they would be able to tell when someone is lying to them, but it's not as easy as it seems. We've all heard that people look away when they're lying or something in their voice or behavior changes when they tell a lie, but for most people, lying is actually quite easy to do without giving anything away. It can become very easy for people to tell when certain people are lying to them by getting to know them, but for the general population, it's a very tough thing to do. You can read as many articles about body language as you want, but chances are none of them will give enough specific information for you to be able to tell when every single person is lying.

Can you tell if someone is lying by their body language?
A lot of people claim that people react a certain way when they are lying, but there is no way that every single person has the exact same reaction when they tell a lie. There is no dead giveaway when someone is not telling you the truth. People do have expressions when they are lying, but the thing about those is that they are so small and so quick that a person not specifically watching for them would never even notice. Also, don't assume that because someone is exhibiting typical "liar" body language that they are definitely lying because every person handles different situations their own way.

Don't assume that lying is hard for people
Assuming that people aren't going to lie to you is a mistake that a lot of people make. For some people, it's incredibly hard to trust people and believe that they have good motives, but for others it's the complete opposite. If you don't lie, it's easy to believe that everyone else doesn't lie either. Lying is extremely easy for the majority of people. Children learn to lie from a very early age and most adults die on a daily basis, maybe about small things, maybe to get out of trouble or avoid conflict, maybe just to make themselves seem more interesting, but whatever the reason, it's not very difficult for most people.

Don't think that you'll be able to tell if someone is lying
If you really want to know if someone is lying, it's important that you don't assume that you'll automatically be able to tell when someone is hiding the truth from you. If you get over-confident about your ability to know when someone is lying to you, you might miss something very small, but significant. It's hard to figure out if a person is being honest or not, almost everyone will be fooled by another person's lie more than once in their lifetime, but a person who overestimates their ability might get fooled even more.

If you are think someone is lying, be sure you want to know the truth
The truth hurts every now and then. Some people find that it's better to know the truth and get hurt so that they can move on and get past it, while others go with the ignorance is bliss approach. If you think that someone might be lying to you, be sure you are ready to handle the truth if they are in fact lying. A great deal of people are afraid to know the truth and sometimes ignore clues that someone is being untruthful.

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  • Marie Anne7/20/2009

    I married a man that is the best liar in the world. Completely fabricated his entire past to myself and to others that he had associated with daily for several years. I'm not a stupid person, nor am I gullible, but I was reeled right in quite easily.

  • Shirley Mandel6/20/2009

    No one can read another person's mind. Only God can read minds. That is why we are not to judge others according to outward appearances. Thank you for this common sense article.

  • Linda M. McCloud5/29/2009

    No, I can't tell when people is lying.

  • Sunshine5/17/2009

    Interesting story

  • Sylvia Cochran5/16/2009

    Your last point is so true!

  • Patricia Sheasley Sicilia5/16/2009

    Sometimes you can tell, sometimes you can't.

  • Roberta Baxter5/16/2009

    Very interesting info about being able to detect if someone is lying. I might look closer at the body language from now on because of you write.

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