Can Too Much Sex Ruin Your Sense of Commitment?

There was a time many years ago when people would practice modesty excessively to the point where those who didn't was looked down upon. The act of modest conduct represents the strict morals of those brought up in a strict upbringing. People in other countries still live by this rule that one should be married first before intercourse or a baby, no drinking, no smoking, no participation in any wild unruly behavior. Yet, somewhere down the line people decided not to care, and why wait. The problem with this is that many have been hurt emotionally during the exploration, and another surprise occurred. After someone breaks your heart you might have said never again, but it is not how it worked out. Some people with extreme will power manage to date a few partners for long periods of time. Some manage to date a lot , but get serious to only a few.

However, many ends up swallowed up in a world of many dates and many partners in a constant spinning motion. It is a feeling one cannot easily get over, so it will be a struggle for people to stop. What do some call these type of people? Some are referred to as sluts, jigalos, or whores. Those names only refer to those who look cheap and act cheap leaving out all others no one would expect to have gone on the same road. No one would want to be labeled in such a manner as a person without self control, but how can "meet ups" represent a sense of modesty? The fact is that it is a hard habit to break, and it becomes such a normal habit that it isn't thought about anymore.

When did we all decide to let our morals go? Was it in youth to please the partner we were with or to be like everyone else? Did something bad happen to you to make the habit lodge in your mind as something you have to do? Those are questions we should ask ourselves especially when it comes to our ability to commit to one person with out cheating after tasting other fruit. Though many people do not believe it to be true there are those who still hold those morals by abstinence. The abstinence can be compared to that saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder". The absence is the deeper knowledge of what connects people together with a strong attachment. In fact, people always talk of virgins becoming attached more than those who've had experience. This could be a factor to why people get on talk shows telling their stories on how they cheated on the one they love. What got them to that place? There is an article where a woman claimed being numb from too much sex.

This sense of numbness can also affect the person psychologically. One way to look at the act of promiscuity is like tasting the forbidden fruit in the garden of eden. It may seem cool to break the rules at first due to the fact that your in control. Now for that forbidden fruit to control you like a drug like substance that fixates itself in your memory beckoning you to feed that hunger. Suddenly, it is not so funny anymore, and your next worry is when to get fixed again. It always saddens me to hear those stories about a woman who've been cheated on by her man, or a woman who doesn't know who fathered her own child. All of that for just a few minutes of fun. It seems that those morals are not just to bore someone, but to save from the embarrassment...and pain.

After all, it becomes routine for gratification and no commitment. What does everyone learn about it? There may be more similarities in the same action than something out of this world. If you don't feel anything special in one partner after having numerous affairs what will keep you from cheating in hope to find that cosmic thing? This is the reason why those prudish people should not be put down. Neither is is fair to put those down who have learned the hard way through experience. There are many paths to take that can benefit each of us, and it is up to go for it. None of us should be pleasure toys, because there is supposed to be so much more to us than that. We have to search ourselves to find out who we are and set up goals for our lives to give our existence a deeper meaning.

There has been some who have been lucky enough to find the one who is skilled enough to make you think its love. On the other hand, sometimes people do find a lasting relationship. There are some changes taking place in people who've recognized how such a moment should be spent. Some women have actually went to the doctor to perform surgery to make them a virgin again for the man they truly loved. Many people are now taking their lives back toward morality when they are abstinent or practice celibacy. One partner who is everything to you should be given that right after marriage as a bond between you both. Bonding with many belittles the whole experience into just an experience. There is nothing serious or special about meaningless gratification if it cannot make you truly happy to be candy. Find yourself and then you can find your soul mate without going through everyone. Some have gone through many and found that one person, but it isn't that way for all of us.