Can a Virtual Affair Turn into the Real Thing?

"Honey it is only harmless flirting." Many spouses have heard this line before. Chat rooms are full of people looking for someone to virtually have an affair with. However, can a virtual affair turn into a real affair?

The news is full of online dangers. Pedophiles masquerading as children, spammers trolling cyberspace for email addresses, identity thieves stealing personal data. . However, you do not hear much about the effects of online infidelity.

It is true that many virtual affairs go no further after meeting offline in the real world. Most are due to the prospective subjects being less than truthful about themselves and their appearances. Man men have met their online bombshell to find out they appeared more like what a bomb leaves behind after explosion. Many women have also met their online romance book cover hero who is a Texas millionaire to find him to be a unemployed character who needs a book cover to hide his face.

Most virtual affairs go no further that email ad instant messaging. Large populations of online lovers see nothing wrong with it; I mean it is not as if we are physically touching. Ah, but the brain is a stronger muscle than the heart in these cases. Establishing emotional intimacy with someone, love, attention, and companionship can be moving if they are not finding it with their real world spouse.

Many women especially are mesmerized by conversations like, "tell me about your day, let's talk abut you, what are your desires." Conversations they are not getting in the real world. Instead of trying to seek counseling with their spouses, due to the difficulty it would take. They simply find someone online who fits the bill. Guys are the same way also.

Signs that your partner may be having an online affair;

• Spending long periods on the computer to use the Internet. Your partner is in chat rooms all the time. Online chat and online communities are perfect places to find and stay in touch with an online lover.
• Being secretive about Internet / computer usage. This can be seen in hiding the screen or closing pages as you walk by. They move the computer in a very private place where they can see you coming or even look the room while using.
• Not going to bed at the same time. Staying at the computer while you go to bed. Encouraging you to go on to be while they get on the computer.
• Decreased frequency in sex. Saying things like, " I'm too tired or I'm just not in the mood." Comments that are uncharacteristic of them. Usually the cyber affair I meeting their needs.
• Sudden interest in new subjects. Suddenly they are quoting philosophers, listing to music they could not stand before. Taking on the interests of a new lover is part of the initial phase of a virtual affair.
• An unusual amount of hang up calls or sudden calls where they have to be alone on their cell phones. In addition, large amounts of out of state numbers called and called form at strange hours. This would mean the affair is offline and on the phone.

Online affairs account for the largest number of divorces today. The online loving is usually a catalyst for real world infidelity in most cases. Harmless flirtation on the Internet can lead to harmful results of devastating and destroying families.