Can We Ever Quit Assuming?

The World we live in today, is very different from what it used to be. Today we aren't afraid to wear less clothing, say what's on our mind- (even if no one wants to hear it), use foul language, and of course- there is even a lot more crime.

But the main thing that bothers me, and obviously always will, is the way we as human's always assume. We take for granted, and more often than not- it gets someone in trouble.

My experiences with assuming, are not good. I have done my fair share of it, too. I have said things I later regretted, only to endure the wrath later.

But my most favorite is when you think all is well, and going well in the World, and things start to look and feel all peachy keen. That is when we should be in fear the most. When we are quiet-generally-something is wrong.

Take for instance the Child. He's cooing and singing as he is driving his hot wheels on the coffee table. When you look away, and go back into the kitchen to make dinner, all is quiet. He must still be playing cars right? Nope. Now he is eating cigarettes out of the ash try. Yucky!

People see your Child in the streets with scrapes and cuts all over his knees, and wonder. Neighbors point and think. And low and behold if they are concerned, or shall I say bored; they must simply dial the phone to the authorities rather than be point blank and ask you, let alone the child. Amazingly they are only concerned for the safety and welfare of your Child, something must be going wrong, they just know it. It couldn't be a bike accident, or even a skate board wreck, now could it?

Then there is the religious person, who witnesses just how much you cuss, and that you didn't go to Church last Sunday. The need to fix you, the need to tell you of your wrongs doings, it is there. And yes, there are churches that insist if you see someone falling out of God's graces, you must witness to them, and save their soul before it's too late. So naturally this person assumes you need saving. It couldn't be that you were sick last Sunday, and by all means, are we ever going to admit that yes, there are ministers and preachers out there, that DO cuss. It is far from the ultimate sin. Now rather than ask, "Hey didn't see you at Church last Sunday, what's up?" It's "I noticed you are slipping, and need your faith restored, so I'm here now."

Then your Children are playing outside in tattered and torn clothes, and getting filthy. Or maybe, they were filthy before hand...I'm not sure, I better call Child Welfare. How about the skinny kid? He must be under fed, better call. The Dad was laid off. Wow, they aren't going to have enough money to feed those kids, I better call. Ok, then the Child heads over to borrow an egg. "I knew it! They are starving those kids!" Why can't you just ask?

Are people that scary, that you must always assume the worst? And if these people in trouble are your friends, then why can't you ask, rather than always assume the worst? You say you're friends, but you don't have the nerve to ask, instead you just make your assumption, creating turmoil and burdens on everyone. Because trust me, while you were assuming and making a bogus call to the authorities, a real person, who really needed help- was killed.

Yes, I know there are abusers, and those that neglect their Children amongst all of us. But perhaps they need help, advice and are afraid to ask. Perhaps this is their first Child, and you have how many? Then you have advice to offer. Do it nicely, don't assume. Go over and visit, be friendly, not fake.

We are all human, and we all have needs. And sometimes sending the authorities really complicates things. Then the person who was called upon, low and behold must "assume" who called, and naturally they are going to point fingers and back away from everyone in fear. And by all means, family does call on family; don't ever say they don't, because they do. "I don't like the way my daughter-in-law is speaking to my Son, and raising our Grand Son. I've had it. She needs taught a lesson! I'm calling Child Welfare so they can teach her right from wrong!"

Don't sit there nodding your head in disbelief. And don't sit there saying, "I would never!" Never ever say never!

Man kind is complicated, and sometimes quite vengeful. The Bible verse stating to let the Lord handle the revenge , people might say they do it- but they usually don't. I will say usually, because there is someone out there who will truly leave it to the Lord. And then there's others who have a lot of hatred in them, and then of course the bored person.

I have had a lot of hatred in and through out my life. I have witnessed a lot, and always I strive to survive. People have always been there, poking around, pointing fingers, and making wise cracks. Even when I was a Child myself. People are nosey by nature, and need something or someone to focus on, rather it be a job, their own family and life, or you.

It can be stopped, if we could just get people to listen and learn. Stop assuming, and try to be friendlier and understanding. Compassion is also a key factor in communication, try it. Don't make fun of people, the neighbor who has everything, and the one that has nothing. Be their friends. Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer. And by all means, SMILE, it does make them wonder what you are up too!